There has been speculation that the friend zone isn’t real and it’s guys making a girl feel bad for not liking them, and in my opinion that’s not how I see the friend zone whatsoever. In case you’re unsure what the friend zone is, it’s a where usually a guy, like a girl who happens to be one of his best friends who doesn’t reciprocate the feelings, is in a relationship, or likes things the way they are without being in a relationship with said guy. Cool, okay, however, this is not what I think the true friend zone is. I honestly think a lot of girls, and guys, are afraid to be in a relationship with someone they’re so close to.
Personally if I was that close with a guy I’m not sure if I would want to jeopardize a friendship for a relationship, even if I had feelings for that person. I would be terrified to lose a best friend unless I was 110% positive that we would be able to maintain the same friendship if we ever broke up or if it didn’t work out. I don’t think the friend zone is to prevent a guy from being with the girl of his dreams, but it might be scary for her.
I don’t think we should shame guys for complaining about being in the friend zone, they have the right to be upset. The girl they like is right there in front of them all the time and they can’t just whip her around and kiss her or hold her hand when you’re on a walk, that probably sucks. Also, how many of those girls saying guys shouldn’t complain about this complain about being single all the time? Or they’re wishing for that best guy friend to sweep them off their feet and then they go and reject all of that affection that they’re being showered with.
If you have a friend that you’ve “friend zoned” I’m not saying you shouldn’t date him or even give him a chance, but you shouldn’t make him feel bad. I’ve seen these situations compared to RAPE, are you kidding me? There are people comparing a guy being upset about being in the friend zone to RAPE, all because in both scenarios the woman is saying no. Cool, she’s saying no that doesn’t mean he’s trying to RAPE her. I find that completely and utterly ridiculous. I’m sorry, but I’m not okay with a guy trying to go on a date with his friend being compared to rape.
Okay, so if you’re one of those girls who think the friend zone is made up by guys so terribly upset please leave me a comment letting me know why. I’m really intrigued at how this is comparable to rape, just because a woman is saying no. Also ladies, this happens to guys too, then is it comparable to rape? I’m seriously asking a question. So next time a guy friend zones you, let’s just rethink everything we’re saying about the friend zone. And to anyone in the friend zone, don’t give up, but don’t be pushy. If it’s supposed to happen it will happen.
Opinions in the comments please, I would like to hear other thoughts on this!