Cutting People Out

There’s only so much you can do for people. As hard as you try, not everyone is fixable. There comes a point where fixing someone else can become detrimental to yourself. There comes a point where someone has used you so much you have nothing left to give. There will always come a point in time where it’s just too much for one person to handle and you have to walk away.

Giving up on a friendship or relationship or anything is so hard because you care about them. Yet, you care so much about them where you start to put their happiness above your own. Their happiness is being put above everything in your life, and that’s not fair to yourself.

While you shouldn’t always put yourself as a first priority, there comes a point where you have to be. If you are always putting someone else’s needs above your own you are only going to end up hurting yourself. You might be allowing yourself to be taken advantage of as well as let yourself be manipulated. There comes a time where you need to take the initiative and make yourself a priority for once.

After learning this the hard way and allowing people to take advantage of me time and time again, I’m at a place where I find it hard to trust anyone. I’m in a place where I make new friends but they know very little about me. Sure I care about them and all of their problems and I want to help them as much as I can, but I can’t let anyone in anymore, at least that’s how I feel. Because of being taken advantage of and not cutting people out when I should have I shut down so easily. As soon as the little bubble of fear comes up that someone can’t be trusted I don’t talk to them or say anything of importance. Sure my entire life is online, but I figure only those who care enough about me will actually care enough to read this so those people deserve to know.

Take my advice from my experience and allow yourself to be priority number one and cut people who don’t appreciate out. I’m trying to take this advice myself, but it’s very hard. It’s hard to cut people out who know so much about you, who you let in and get to know you. That’s why it’s so hard for me to let some people in. There are some people who I will never tell another detail of my life to again because they broke my trust. Trust is earned and easily lost. Keep that in mind for yourself but also when it comes to people in your own life. Does everyone you care for you really care about you? Cut them out before you reach the point of no return. Life is too short to spend time with people you don’t actually like. Find real friends and make real connections not just superficial ones.

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3 thoughts on “Cutting People Out

  1. gettingthroughanxiety October 1, 2014 / 8:50 pm

    Mary,

    I totally understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes it’s especially hard when we become really close friends with someone and they change for the worse or simply turn out to be someone other than who you thought. You are also right that while we need to try to be selfless, we also at times need to make ourselves top priority and not let others take advantage of us or make us feel bad about ourselves.

    I think what is especially hard is when we are treated poorly by family members. However, while we may not wish to exactly “cut them out”, we need to learn not to let them bring us down. Excellent post and I hope you know that I am here for you!

    • Mary October 1, 2014 / 10:18 pm

      Yeah I was mostly talking about friends. Mostly some really bad ones I’ve been dealing with lately *rolls my eyes at their high school behavior*.

      Thanks again for all of your support always!

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