How to Care.

Contrary to popular belief about me, I care about people. A lot. Like my friends and family mostly, if I don’t like you I probably don’t care about you but if you’re my friend I care a lot about you. I think people have this idea that I don’t care about them because I have rbf and it makes people think I don’t care. I also am brutally honest which some people see as rude but I think that people just deserve the truth, maybe that’s just me though. But if you’re reading this and I’ve called you “friend” or “pal” or I talk to you outside of a group setting I probably really care about you and your wellbeing. So since I care a lot I thought I would just share with you how to show someone you care.

  1. The easiest thing to do is say you care. Literally tell a person you care about them. It’s not hard and it shows someone that they have a friend in you.
  2. Ask someone how they’re doing, like more than just a “how are you” with an answer along the lines of “fine” like get into the depths of their day and their life. I mean if you know them, don’t try to get into the depths of a stranger’s life, weird.
  3. Be there for them when they need you. Obviously you can’t be there all the time but when you can be there, even if it’s a little inconvenient for you. A friend has to come before yourself sometimes. I know last week I wrote about how you need to take time for yourself sometimes but keyword sometimes. You can’t always come first.
  4. Keep things between the two of you. If someone tells you a secret don’t share, they won’t be able to trust you and that’s not very caring.
  5. Hug people when you aren’t touchy. The gesture alone will show people how much you care, plus a hug can fix just about anything sometimes.

Here are five tips on how to care, leave your favorites in the comments!

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2 thoughts on “How to Care.

  1. anxiousizzy October 7, 2014 / 12:21 am

    I love this. I find that people think I care too much? Anyone who has ever helped me through any situation, I automatically feel like I need to take care of them, because they deserve what they did for me in return. Except. People probably get freaked out by that. And I realize as I’m typing this how creepy I sound hahah. I swear I’m normal! I just wish it wasn’t so strange for people to care a lot about someone else. It’s so strange because…what happened?

  2. gettingthroughanxiety October 7, 2014 / 1:49 pm

    Mary,

    I think you list some great ways to show you care. I felt this morning that you really cared about me, so thank you for that. I want you to know that I truly care about you as well.

    I think some great ways to show you care are:

    1.) As you said, be honest- even if you think it’ll hurt the other person’s feelings. I’m not saying be mean, but tell them the truth and don’t twist the truth either so it’s actually a lie.

    2.) As you said, say that you care or that you’re there for them. Remind the person that if they ever need you, you’ll be there.

    3.) If you can, offer some advice if they ask.

    4.) When you ask how someone is or what’s going on in their life, genuinely care and want to know.

    I think you’ve pretty much listed the same ways to show someone you care as you did!

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