I’m Figuring it Out.

Yesterday I went to my college’s career center, they told me that I should reconsider my major. That was helpful considering I’m practically done the requirements for it. Then I took their version of a career aptitude test and each section told me to that I would be good at something different so that’s interesting. I’m at the crossroads of life yet again and I’m sure next week after my meeting with them it will be worse. I don’t know, sometimes I just feel like I should know what I want to do by now and adults should respect my decisions considering I’m kind of an adult.

I’m tired of being questioned about who I am and what I’m doing. I think people think they’re helping when they ask me questions like “are you sure” or “what are you going to do with that?” as if I’m not asking myself those same questions every day. It’s not helpful to push someone against something they just made their minds up about.

I am a thorough thinker in about everything I do. I don’t really make a decision without considering and weighing all of my options. I have considered every single major my school offers and I have come to the conclusion that Communications is really the only thing that interests me besides photography which really isn’t an option with the way my school does it, plus that’s not a career for me. Communications is something that I can see myself doing and it also happens to be the only thing I like, which is apparently a problem for other people. I’m very sorry that I don’t like anything but I don’t know how that’s anyone else’s problem but my own.

I hope no one thinks I’m a waste of potential or anything. I feel like way too many people besides myself are concerned about where I’m going to end up. Honestly I’m not that worried. I’m not really worried that I won’t find a job because I think if you’re actively trying to find something especially in the communications field someone’s always going to need you. Since I would be fine living almost anywhere I’m not worried about it. I’m more concerned that I’m going to end up unhappy but I will actively find somewhere to work that I can be happy in.

So in conclusion: Firstly,  yes I have a career that I would like to go into, actually two that I’m really looking into. Second, please stop questioning every decision I make because I can promise that I’ve questioned it a lot more than you and it took me way too long to come to that conclusion. Lastly, I’m not worried, I’m comfortable enough with where I am, I have a type of plan and I am confident that I will be able to find a job. Stop stressing me out because you think I’m making rash decision. I don’t know what I’m doing but everyone figures this sort of thing out on their own, just keep that in mind.



11 thoughts on “I’m Figuring it Out.

  1. theworldofcos February 11, 2015 / 6:10 pm

    Unfortunately, schools do make money off you changing majors (since you have to take more classes) so you cannot just listen to what they say. So go with your instincts since you know yourself best, or look into getting a second opinion. Good luck! As always, your posts are interesting to me! :)

    • Mary February 12, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      I never thought about the money aspect before- that’s probably why they’re telling me to reconsider since I’m almost finished my major anyway. Thank you so much! :)

  2. alexk710 February 11, 2015 / 8:45 pm

    Seriously, do what you love Mary… People are always quick to give advice about what is “realistic” or a “good choice” but those same people are the ones who end up in safe, boring jobs that they hate. If you are passionate about something, you will excel at it, and you will make something of yourself doing it. I love you and I have so much faith in you and I know you’ll succeed in whatever you do. Be at peace with your decisions because you are the only one in the right situation to make them for yourself. :)

    • Mary February 12, 2015 / 8:31 pm

      First of all, I love you. Second of all you are great! And thank you. Seriously they’re jobs suck so they probably want everyone else to be miserable too.

  3. Katie February 12, 2015 / 12:19 am

    I’ve found that while sometimes advisors and career centers can help a bit, more often than not they only increase the confusion. It’s so frustrating that the people paid to help us seem to cause so much frustration and worry. I say, if your happy with where you’re at and where you’re going–why change?

    • Mary February 12, 2015 / 8:27 pm

      Right! They should help us rather than make us question every decision we make. I just don’t understand.

  4. Simplexvita February 12, 2015 / 1:16 am

    I agree with all of the comments above! But I find it helpful when my adviser asks “Have you considered other majors? What about the job prospects? Do you have a back up plan if this falls through?”. I know he’s pushing me to be realistic and knowledgeable about my life much further down the road. And sometimes the answers scare the s**t out of me. It makes me reevaluate where I want to be in ten years or so in my life. Is this what I want as a career? Will I be happy?
    And if you’re not terrified once per semester, are you truly in college?

    • Mary February 12, 2015 / 8:22 pm

      My advisor is a joke- she didn’t know that I had no clue what I wanted to be until the first day of this semester and she’s been my advisor for almost two years! It is scary but it’s all part of the journey- I totally agree with you!

  5. gettingthroughanxiety February 12, 2015 / 11:34 am

    I think it’s good that you have faith that you’ll find a job in Communications. I know where you’re coming from because I always hear how hard it is to find a career in writing, as if I don’t know that. I’m sorry that the people at the career center discouraged what you want to do, they shouldn’t do that. Instead, they should give you advice on how to be successful in your field of study.

    • Mary February 12, 2015 / 8:21 pm

      Right. They should help rather than hinder! And you’re doing a great job writing- I don’t know why anyone would tell you different!

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