I’m a Feminist, Liberal, AND most importantly, a Christian.

In the US (at least I’m not sure about other countries) the bulk of Christians tend to lean towards Republican candidates, which is why people like Trump talk at the graduations of Christian schools. However, I’m fiercely Christian and fiercely feminist and liberal. You may be asking yourself, well how does that work? How can you vote for a pro-choice candidate? How can you be so socially liberal, women were created for men, man shall not lay with man, the list can go on and on of all the reason I should be socially conservative. However, there are some major issues that stick out to me as a Christian when you think like this.

1. “Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her.” John 8:7 and “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” Matthew 7:1

As a Christian, I can recognize that I am fallible. I am not perfect, I am a sinner, and ever so thankful that Jesus gave his life for those sins and for my imperfections. It is because of Him that I can sin and be forgiven. How is it my decision to now try and take away someone else’s free will? I am not God, I am not Jesus, therefore I do not have the ability to condemn someone to hell, and therefore I will not even try. Don’t cast a stone, be a shoulder. Jesus sat with the sinners, he washed their feet, he doesn’t want us to judge. It’s not what we should be doing. I am not one to make a judgment call like that, heck I’m not one to make a judgment call on where to eat dinner.

2. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28, “For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.” 1 Corinthians 11:12, “She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.” Proverbs 31:17 “and God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.” Psalm 46:5

In Jesus, all people are equal. There is no race, gender, nationality, etc. Jesus is not xenophobic. Jesus accepts all the same- disregarding gender as an issue in his eye. While yes, Eve did come from Adam, every man came from a woman after that, but all creatures of earth are God’s. He made women strong, He protects women. In the eyes of Jesus, we are the same. In the eye’s of God, we are equal.

“And as you wish others would do to you, do so to them.” Luke 6:31 (the golden rule), “Love does no Harm to a neighbor. Therefore Love is the fulfilment of the law.” Romans 13:10, “30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31. 

The Bible says it over and over again: love is the most important thing. At the end of the day, I think they only people we are hurting when we choose to not love our neighbors is ourselves. God is first and always will be, but treat everyone one else the same way that you expect to be treated. He blesses us with life, why should we want to take the same gift away from anyone else? Jesus died for everyone to have the right to be a sinner, no one is infallible.

When you vote, I believe that it’s important to vote for equality- everyone’s rights. That includes their right to religious freedom, the right to let hurt people into the country (trust me it’s what Jesus would do), and the right to sin, you’re sinning, I’m sinning, we’re all sinning. When I vote there are two really big things that I like to keep in mind: who will help children/ work to irradicate the poverty cycle in this country? and who is going to help America be a welcoming place for all those that need to take refuge? If that’s a Republican, that’s who I will vote for. However, recent history has shown that I’m voting liberal and voting for everyone’s rights.


Dating Diaries: Waiting Until Marriage

Family who reads my blog– please do not feel obligated by any means to read this post as I will be talking about sex quite candidly.

This is one of the hardest blog posts I’ve ever had to write because it’s such an unpopular choice that I have made. I don’t know when I made the conscious decision to do so, it’s just something that I decided I was going to do: I am going to wait until I’m married to have sex.

This makes dating complicated. We live in an extremely sexualized world. There are apps people use for the sole purpose of finding someone to have sex with. Then there’s me, making the extremely unpopular decision to wait. So why have I decided to keep the promise I’ve made to myself? To be quite honest, the decision started because I’m religious but I’m no longer doing it because of that. It is one part because it weeds out a lot of really shitty guys. If he gets annoyed about your wait to want or even tries to convince you to do otherwise you know he’s not even worth the slightest amount of time.

Aside from the benefits of weeding the shits out, it’s still not an easy conversation to have with anyone. There never seems to be a right time or place to blurt out “I’m a virgin and I’m staying like that until my wedding night.” In the past, I’ve found it easiest to say while intoxicated, but that’s just really not bright because it’s more than that. It revolves around boundaries and decisions that you have to be grown up enough to talk about. It’s  not fun, but it’s important.

Here’s my advice to anyone sitting down to have the conversation, just do it. I usually start by saying, “I really like you and I hope this isn’t going to change anything, but I’m waiting to have sex until I’m married.” After that, it’s hopefully a conversation, or at least he’s respectful of your choice. Every now and again you might meet someone who has the same plan, but for me, it’s been few and far between. It’s only impacted a relationship once or twice, but if I’m being honest I like to wait for them to get at least a little attached. The only downside to that is I also get attached. The sooner the better, but it’s also important for you to go with what you are comfortable with.

I’m not writing this post for other people to make the same choice that I have. It’s hard and it’s not for everyone. Due to my anxiety and severe commitment but also extreme attachment issues, it wouldn’t be smart for me to do. So I’m doing what I can for my Lord by saving myself, but that’s not all of it. It’s so much more than that.

What are your thoughts? Any other waiters out there? How do you have the conversation? One, a few, ongoing?

Spreading God’s Word versus Shoving it Down Your Throat

Growing up as a Catholic in Lancaster County I was the minority when it came to religions, often times being told I wasn’t a Christian. I am, trust me I would know, not those who told me I wasn’t because I’m pretty sure the only thing they knew about Catholicism was that “we eat Jesus”. Because of this very slight difference in beliefs (I would like to point out here that Catholicism was the first form of Christianity, which history proves that it was but people still don’t believe me) sometimes I was a target to be “saved” and that just made me hate that term. I can’t even tell you how many times I was asked that. Okay I’m getting off track, anyway,  I would just like to point out a difference between spreading God’s Word and shoving it down someone’s throat.

As a Christian I understand that you want and you should share God’s Word and love with those around you but you shouldn’t just go up to random people and tell them that if they refuse Jesus they are condemned to hell. Well first of all, no one can condemn anyone to hell BUT GOD HIMSELF that is His business, not ours. It’s not our place to act like there’s a seat in Heaven with our name in it, that’s not how it works. We have to work to get there and in the end it’s all up to God. I don’t go around acting like I know it all because I don’t, God does. When it comes to shoving down your beliefs down someone’s throat, I just think you should know that you aren’t doing anyone any favors, the chances of someone turning to God when it is being forced upon them are slim. The more you try to force something onto someone there’s a smaller chance of them actually wanting to do something about it.

There’s a huge difference between having a civil conversation with someone about religion and trying to force them to become and believe what you believe. Personally if someone opens up to you with something and they ask for help, you can ask if it’s okay if you pray for them, pray for them either way but don’t just march up to someone and pronounce that you’ll pray for them out of nowhere. I find that so rude, it’s one of my biggest pet peeves, it makes me feel as if you’re judging me. Have open discussions with people, talk about what they believe too, have a two-way discussion, don’t just shut them and what they think out, you won’t get anywhere.

Be careful with how you share God’s Word if you really want to help people, trying to force your beliefs on them is not going to work.



Defining Moments.

First of all I would just like to thank everyone for their support with my idea yesterday, and the more I think about it and the more people I talk to the more support I get. The only thing I would really like is a partner of some sort, if you would be interested in that at all please email me at marysaverageadventures@gmail.com with a reason why you would be interested in helping me and if you have enough time to devote to helping me.  If you have no idea what I’m talking about here is a link to yesterday’s post https://marysaverageadventures.wordpress.com/2014/02/25/im-so-excited-blogger-convention-idea-please-help-me/ so you can find out. I think I’m going to start putting information for this event in my Sunday updates so be on the look out for that.

So since I didn’t like my February month series thing, I’ve decided on writing about some huge defining moments in my life. So if you read my post on my family or when I reviewed 2013, you probably saw some of my many defining moments in life, but not all of them. I would put pictures in but a lot of them are on my family computer back home so I’m just going to write them. This is also partially because I’m lazy.

  • Obviously my first defining moment in life was my birth. If it wasn’t for that I wouldn’t be here today. Thanks for that mom and dad. I was also baptized as an infant which let me into the church and really helped shaped my life, which I would say is a defining moment.
  • In the second grade I made my First Communion, which let me get more involved in the Mass, which was a defining moment, at the time because I felt like a princess, now because it’s a really important part of my faith.
  • In the third or fourth grade, I found my first passion, acting. I joined the acting club and I went back every year to do stage work and managing until the my sophomore year when it was sadly put to an end. Even though I never got involved at a higher level I always consider this a defining moment because these were some of my happiest years, I felt like I was doing something that mattered.
  • At the age of 14 I made my Confirmation which allowed me to be a full member of the church, which to me personally was a very defining moment.
  • In the 8th grade one of my favorite teachers at the time advised me to join Model UN. Something that I ended up being pretty good at. This leads to the defining moment of getting three awards my sophomore year, that weren’t just participation awards, but an award I actually worked for.
  • I would have to say the biggest defining moment of my life was the invitation to go to Europe. At the time I had no idea what an impact it would have on my life, but it has left a lasting impression. This is not only something that I will remember my whole life but it is something that brought me two of my best friends.
  • My graduation obviously was a defining moment in my life, however, it was and even better moment for me because I not only helped plan it, and read off the names of my closest friends, but I had the amazing opportunity to be a commencement speaker. This was just a big moment for me and something I always wanted to do so to have the opportunity to it was amazing.
  • Finally my last defining moment, and probably a huge thing was leaving for college. I mean even though I go home regularly (mostly because I’m not a fan of it here) to pack up my life and put it into boxes and start living in another state was a defining moment in my life. It was a big deal to me, something I had never done before.

Okay so those are just some major defining moments in my life, what are some of yours? Again if anyone is interested in my blogger convention, please let me know! On a completely unrelated note I have some very exciting things to come in the upcoming days/weeks/months and I can’t wait to share it all with you guys! Thanks for reading!