I’m a Feminist, Liberal, AND most importantly, a Christian.

In the US (at least I’m not sure about other countries) the bulk of Christians tend to lean towards Republican candidates, which is why people like Trump talk at the graduations of Christian schools. However, I’m fiercely Christian and fiercely feminist and liberal. You may be asking yourself, well how does that work? How can you vote for a pro-choice candidate? How can you be so socially liberal, women were created for men, man shall not lay with man, the list can go on and on of all the reason I should be socially conservative. However, there are some major issues that stick out to me as a Christian when you think like this.

1. “Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her.” John 8:7 and “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” Matthew 7:1

As a Christian, I can recognize that I am fallible. I am not perfect, I am a sinner, and ever so thankful that Jesus gave his life for those sins and for my imperfections. It is because of Him that I can sin and be forgiven. How is it my decision to now try and take away someone else’s free will? I am not God, I am not Jesus, therefore I do not have the ability to condemn someone to hell, and therefore I will not even try. Don’t cast a stone, be a shoulder. Jesus sat with the sinners, he washed their feet, he doesn’t want us to judge. It’s not what we should be doing. I am not one to make a judgment call like that, heck I’m not one to make a judgment call on where to eat dinner.

2. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28, “For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.” 1 Corinthians 11:12, “She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.” Proverbs 31:17 “and God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.” Psalm 46:5

In Jesus, all people are equal. There is no race, gender, nationality, etc. Jesus is not xenophobic. Jesus accepts all the same- disregarding gender as an issue in his eye. While yes, Eve did come from Adam, every man came from a woman after that, but all creatures of earth are God’s. He made women strong, He protects women. In the eyes of Jesus, we are the same. In the eye’s of God, we are equal.

“And as you wish others would do to you, do so to them.” Luke 6:31 (the golden rule), “Love does no Harm to a neighbor. Therefore Love is the fulfilment of the law.” Romans 13:10, “30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31. 

The Bible says it over and over again: love is the most important thing. At the end of the day, I think they only people we are hurting when we choose to not love our neighbors is ourselves. God is first and always will be, but treat everyone one else the same way that you expect to be treated. He blesses us with life, why should we want to take the same gift away from anyone else? Jesus died for everyone to have the right to be a sinner, no one is infallible.

When you vote, I believe that it’s important to vote for equality- everyone’s rights. That includes their right to religious freedom, the right to let hurt people into the country (trust me it’s what Jesus would do), and the right to sin, you’re sinning, I’m sinning, we’re all sinning. When I vote there are two really big things that I like to keep in mind: who will help children/ work to irradicate the poverty cycle in this country? and who is going to help America be a welcoming place for all those that need to take refuge? If that’s a Republican, that’s who I will vote for. However, recent history has shown that I’m voting liberal and voting for everyone’s rights.

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Being Christian at a Non-Christian School

*Disclaimer* I felt the need to put a disclaimer at the beginning of this post because while writing it I feel as if I’m coming off as not as accepting as I am and I really do love all of my friends, no matter what you believe. I’m just sharing my struggles with how sometimes you need that moral connection. This is typically why I don’t like to bring my religion to my blog because I have friend of other faiths and I don’t want to feel as if they can’t be friends with me because we don’t believe the same thing. That’s not how I feel at all and I just feel the need to clarify right from the start that I’m not trying to offend anyone. If I was I wouldn’t put this here.

This is a post that’s been weighing on me for quite sometime now and I just wasn’t sure. Yet, for the past three weeks it just keeps weighing on my more and more, guess that’s God for you. Someone must need this message so I’m just going to share what my first year was like being a Christian at a school that doesn’t have any type of religious affiliation.

Growing up I went to public school, but the difference between public school in Lancaster County and the rest of the world is that it’s basically a Christian school. As you know from my post on shoving religion down people’s throats (read that here) I was often not viewed as a Christian (even though Catholics are Christians) most people shared my morals even if we didn’t have the exact same beliefs. It was always easy to find friends that didn’t drink, didn’t have sex, we just had a lot of the same morals and it was really easy just to find someone that you can agree on those sort of things with.

When I went to college I expected some shock, but I honestly did not think that a lot of people hook up and a lot of people drink. Well I was really wrong. The first Sunday, I of course found Catholic church within walking distance and I quickly noticed that I was one of the few who did this. Sunday mornings campus is dead, maybe a few people here or there, but other than some people walking back to their rooms after a night of fun, there’s not many of us heading to church at all. That’s when I knew it might be difficult and different to find people that shared the same sort of morals as myself.

I’m not opposed to hanging out with people of other religions whatsoever, that’s not what I base a friendship off of, I look for people who I can talk to and get along with, something that comes with that often is sharing morals. I did make friends at school and I love them, however the one thing that I didn’t think I would struggle with that I found that I am is dating.

Not that I haven’t talked to any straight, single guys this year, well for the most part, and I think there were two huge deterrents with the idea of even putting myself out there, with the exception that I still wasn’t over someone in my past for the whole first semester. Number one, I’m waiting for marriage. I don’t want to get too much into this, but I strongly believe that sex should be reserved for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with so that’s what I want to do, and I don’t think that’s what a lot of guys at this age want to do. This is a major place where I think going to non-religious school is hard. I hear about hook ups all the time and that’s not what I’m looking for when I talk to a guys, I’m looking for a friendship that maybe one day when I’m ready could possibly turn into something more. The second reason being I’m afraid of commitment, which does not go with my morals but that’s just the second reason.

Honestly, being a Christian at a non-Christian school can be hard but if you think of it as a test (I don’t, some do) maybe it will help. When it comes down to it find people who share some of the same morals and you’ll be able to get along. When it comes to dating, the right person will be the right person and you will do the right things for the two of you as long as you are firm in what you believe. If you ever struggle find a chaplain on campus, my school even has one! Or you can go to the church and they might even have a little support group and pastors are always willing to talk to help anyone struggling with you faith. I hope maybe I helped someone with this post, if not I guess that’s okay too. God led me to write it either way.

XOXO,

Mary.

Right Now.

Okay so it’s Sunday yet again, however this week has seems rather slow so it’s more like, Sunday is finally here. The week was very slow with class, going back to tutoring, and having an awesome weekend with friends. To be honest most of my week was rather boring and not much happened, it was slow and very unproductive. I was able to have lunch with my commuter friend Ashlee on Thursday but other than that it was rather dreary. Lab luckily got out early on Friday so I spent my evening with my friend Meag. She took me to this place for dinner I had never heard of, Noodles and Company, it was rather good. Our school had a showing of “The Butler” so we went to see that. I made a poor decision and ate popcorn which I’m allergic too and I couldn’t stop coughing the rest of the night. Whoops.  Then Saturday I got brunch to go and had to get ready for an afternoon/night out. As you probably know I went to Friendly’s and the coolest movie theater ever, but it’s really a process to get out there and back. Today Meag and I walked to church and enjoyed some coffee from Starbucks afterwards.  Today has been semi-busy with catching up with my parents, having a Google Hangout with Lindsay and Jade, doing homework, and editing the final week of winter break vlogging. So yeah that’s been this week.

Next week has a lot to come. I’m seriously hoping that there’s a snow day tomorrow, but we’ll see what happens. I would really like to get some cleaning done and a day off would probably make me do that. Anyway besides classes I have tutoring continuing on Wednesdays from now on.  My roommate should be approved to move out by this weekend so that’s also happening and I’ll be in a single, which I’m looking forward to. Then after my lab on Friday I will be heading home. Lindsay’s also home this weekend and hopefully I can see her and Katie on Friday. I’m working on Saturday at an unknown time, and hopefully seeing my sisters friends for her party. Then Sunday I’ll go to my church and my sister is having the family over for her birthday so I’ll try and make it through most of that, but at some point I’m going to have to leave to come back to school. Other than that I don’t have much going on this week, nothing too exciting.  If you don’t mind doing a little snow dance for me tonight I really wouldn’t mind ;) thanks for reading guys.

XOXO

Mary

After today trivia will be all caught up and I will never wait this long again to post it because that was the stupidest thing I have ever done.

Answers

January 23:  “Don’t Stop Believin'”

January 24:  Yellow and Pink

January 25:  Iowa and Ohio

January 26:  The water at Bondi beach in Sydney, Australia.

January 27:  6.

January 28:  Dallas in 1980.

January 29:  Severe Weather Threat Index.

January 30:  Sid.

January 31:  In the bloodstream.

February 1:  A certificate from a Dale Carnegie course he took.

Question

February 2:  When it comes to pizza, what is the cornicione?

Christmas Traditions!

Guys it’s Christmas Eve! So I wrote up a post and everything yesterday but I fell asleep before I could even hit publish so I decided just to do another today. 

As you guys may I have picked up on, I love Christmas, and this includes the various traditions that my family has, so I thought I would just share some of them with you guys! Feel free to leave yours in the comments!

  • The one thing we have done every year since I was born, probably even before that is go to my grandparents house and do a gift exchange with our cousins, have Christmas dinner, and spend time with our extended family because we see the opposite side of our families the next day. Our gift exchange is assigned by picking names out a bowl and the only rule is it can’t be a sibling or spouse in the case of our parents.  I really like this because I just love spending time with my family celebrating and eating.
  • After we get back from this we get to open one present, which is always pajamas to wear to bed that night so we have new ones for whatever reason.  This is probably one of my favorite ones because I love pajamas and I wear them all day if I don’t have anything going on, it’s just a nice present.
  • I also love going to church. This is something I talk about a lot in my blog because religion is a very controversial subject, but I am a fairly religious person (I hope this doesn’t affect our relationship at all but if it does, I’m sorry) and I love going to what is typically Christmas Eve service, however, if my family has the unfortunate problem of having to serve on the alter, like my sisters and mom do this year, we go Christmas day.  It’s so nice to sing the Christmas hymns and here the story of Jesus’ birth every year.
  • Christmas morning, of course with two younger sisters, I am awoken at the crack of dawn, by that I mean 7 am. I’m not really a fan of it, but I guess I get presents earlier this way. 
  • Then as soon as they wake me up, they go to get our parents up, then my mom, my sisters, and I have to sit at the top of the steps while my dad fiddles with something downstairs (it’s been 19 years now and I still don’t know what he’s doing down there!) and then when we finally go down we first open our stockings and then go downstairs again, to the basement and open our presents.
  • Another Christmas Tradition is the pickle that my dad hides in the tree, whoever finds it gets an extra present. Sometimes this is a two hour process, other times fifteen minutes, it all depends on how tricky he decides to be.  
  • Finally, the last Christmas tradition that my family has is that anyone in our extended to family is invited to our house for dinner and it’s just nice to have everyone around the dinner table one a year laughing and sharing memories from Christmas’s past and what’s going on in everyone’s busy lives. 

Well I guess you guys can probably see better now why I love Christmas so much.  Anyway, please share your traditions in the comments! Have a very merry Christmas, or happy Hanukkah but that’s over now, well I hope you had a good one then! 

XOXO 

Mary

 

Friendships: Where are they now?

So guys I’m still procrastinating on this paper so I decided to give you guys two posts in one day just because I was so flighty over break. 

Friends. This is something that I believe to be in the mind of every college freshman.  We have friends at home, friends  from school, friends from church, friends from work, and if you’re anything like me friends from a trip.  I was afraid to leave them behind.  All I had ever heard about going to college is meeting people that are going to be your friends for life, I didn’t want that at all. I had four best friends back home that I wanted to be my friends for life, but college didn’t change that.  I came into college with the idea that I had to get along with people, which I do. I’ve probably only met two or three people I can see myself being friends with for the rest of my time here- that is of course if I chose to stay here, but even after these four years are over (by the way one of these is my friend Logan, and you guys should check out her blog http://lexicallogan.wordpress.com/).  

One thing college has shown me though is the friends that are going to stick by you through everything, and it may be those that you least expect.  My friend Hannah and I will always be best friends, even though we hardly ever talk she’s one of those people that I can tell anything to and not be judged, only accepted. We can go months without talking but when we’re together it’s like we were never apart. My friends Lindsay, Katie, and Jade are amazing. We are constantly in contact with each other, via group message, and Lindsay and I nearly Google Chat nearly everyday, I know they’re always there for me.  Now those are the four I didn’t want to lose. During high school I had managed to lose several friends, sad, I know but I knew they weren’t good for me so I had to move on.  It’s surprising to me those from high school that have stuck around.  I’m still friends with the class president, which I never thought I would be. I’m still friends with a lot of people from church and that surprises me because we were never that close but we have grown closer now than before. I’m also still in contact with a lot of people from work and I talk and hang out with them outside of work too.  

Now maybe these friendships may change as time goes on and maybe I will lose more friends and gain some more here at college or if I transfer. It is comforting however to see that I was still able to maintain great friendships with those who meant a lot to me at home as well as still make a few friends here at college.  I don’t even doubt that I’ll be losing anyone of major importance in my life any more, I’ll only make new friends and expand my circle.

XOXO

Mary