I’m a Feminist, Liberal, AND most importantly, a Christian.

In the US (at least I’m not sure about other countries) the bulk of Christians tend to lean towards Republican candidates, which is why people like Trump talk at the graduations of Christian schools. However, I’m fiercely Christian and fiercely feminist and liberal. You may be asking yourself, well how does that work? How can you vote for a pro-choice candidate? How can you be so socially liberal, women were created for men, man shall not lay with man, the list can go on and on of all the reason I should be socially conservative. However, there are some major issues that stick out to me as a Christian when you think like this.

1. “Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her.” John 8:7 and “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” Matthew 7:1

As a Christian, I can recognize that I am fallible. I am not perfect, I am a sinner, and ever so thankful that Jesus gave his life for those sins and for my imperfections. It is because of Him that I can sin and be forgiven. How is it my decision to now try and take away someone else’s free will? I am not God, I am not Jesus, therefore I do not have the ability to condemn someone to hell, and therefore I will not even try. Don’t cast a stone, be a shoulder. Jesus sat with the sinners, he washed their feet, he doesn’t want us to judge. It’s not what we should be doing. I am not one to make a judgment call like that, heck I’m not one to make a judgment call on where to eat dinner.

2. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28, “For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.” 1 Corinthians 11:12, “She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.” Proverbs 31:17 “and God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.” Psalm 46:5

In Jesus, all people are equal. There is no race, gender, nationality, etc. Jesus is not xenophobic. Jesus accepts all the same- disregarding gender as an issue in his eye. While yes, Eve did come from Adam, every man came from a woman after that, but all creatures of earth are God’s. He made women strong, He protects women. In the eyes of Jesus, we are the same. In the eye’s of God, we are equal.

“And as you wish others would do to you, do so to them.” Luke 6:31 (the golden rule), “Love does no Harm to a neighbor. Therefore Love is the fulfilment of the law.” Romans 13:10, “30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31. 

The Bible says it over and over again: love is the most important thing. At the end of the day, I think they only people we are hurting when we choose to not love our neighbors is ourselves. God is first and always will be, but treat everyone one else the same way that you expect to be treated. He blesses us with life, why should we want to take the same gift away from anyone else? Jesus died for everyone to have the right to be a sinner, no one is infallible.

When you vote, I believe that it’s important to vote for equality- everyone’s rights. That includes their right to religious freedom, the right to let hurt people into the country (trust me it’s what Jesus would do), and the right to sin, you’re sinning, I’m sinning, we’re all sinning. When I vote there are two really big things that I like to keep in mind: who will help children/ work to irradicate the poverty cycle in this country? and who is going to help America be a welcoming place for all those that need to take refuge? If that’s a Republican, that’s who I will vote for. However, recent history has shown that I’m voting liberal and voting for everyone’s rights.

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Just Keep Praying

Lately I’ve been continuing on with my Quarter Life Crisis or if you would rather an Existential Crisis mostly because I have no idea what I’m doing with life or anything for that matter and it really stresses me out. My solution lately has been to pray. I know I don’t really talk about prayer on here much because it’s controversial you know and that’s one issue I don’t like to debate.

I keep praying for some type of solution or break in life. Not an answer, because in my experience God doesn’t like to give answers, He likes to lead you in the right way. Well I’m praying for some type of direction, a direction of what I’m good at, what I should be doing, anything really, and I know He probably is but it doesn’t feel like He’s leading me anywhere currently.

I’ve been praying to find something great in myself, to find something in myself that’s actually worth something, and I know all of me is worth something, like I could probably sell my organs for a really high price, but I mean like finding something in me that’s marketable I suppose. Maybe that’s why I’ve been a distance annoying blogger lately and I’m sorry for that. I’m just doing some soul searching. If I’m being honest it feels like I haven’t written a post in a good week even though I haven’t missed a day.

So yeah I’m just praying to figure some stuff out, I mean I know it’ll all work out, but I think I should just try harder in general. Like I’ve been trying really hard on my papers for school and the words aren’t coming out the way I want it to and I’ve been trying and I just feel like a failure. I know I’m not, it just feels that way.

Right now I’m going to make three goals for this semester.

  1. Try hard on all of my school work and study.
  2. Be more friendly.
  3. Try harder on here (my blog) and bring it to the next level.

So that’s what I have for today. Leave me motivational quotes in the comments, I need them!

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Being Christian at a Non-Christian School

*Disclaimer* I felt the need to put a disclaimer at the beginning of this post because while writing it I feel as if I’m coming off as not as accepting as I am and I really do love all of my friends, no matter what you believe. I’m just sharing my struggles with how sometimes you need that moral connection. This is typically why I don’t like to bring my religion to my blog because I have friend of other faiths and I don’t want to feel as if they can’t be friends with me because we don’t believe the same thing. That’s not how I feel at all and I just feel the need to clarify right from the start that I’m not trying to offend anyone. If I was I wouldn’t put this here.

This is a post that’s been weighing on me for quite sometime now and I just wasn’t sure. Yet, for the past three weeks it just keeps weighing on my more and more, guess that’s God for you. Someone must need this message so I’m just going to share what my first year was like being a Christian at a school that doesn’t have any type of religious affiliation.

Growing up I went to public school, but the difference between public school in Lancaster County and the rest of the world is that it’s basically a Christian school. As you know from my post on shoving religion down people’s throats (read that here) I was often not viewed as a Christian (even though Catholics are Christians) most people shared my morals even if we didn’t have the exact same beliefs. It was always easy to find friends that didn’t drink, didn’t have sex, we just had a lot of the same morals and it was really easy just to find someone that you can agree on those sort of things with.

When I went to college I expected some shock, but I honestly did not think that a lot of people hook up and a lot of people drink. Well I was really wrong. The first Sunday, I of course found Catholic church within walking distance and I quickly noticed that I was one of the few who did this. Sunday mornings campus is dead, maybe a few people here or there, but other than some people walking back to their rooms after a night of fun, there’s not many of us heading to church at all. That’s when I knew it might be difficult and different to find people that shared the same sort of morals as myself.

I’m not opposed to hanging out with people of other religions whatsoever, that’s not what I base a friendship off of, I look for people who I can talk to and get along with, something that comes with that often is sharing morals. I did make friends at school and I love them, however the one thing that I didn’t think I would struggle with that I found that I am is dating.

Not that I haven’t talked to any straight, single guys this year, well for the most part, and I think there were two huge deterrents with the idea of even putting myself out there, with the exception that I still wasn’t over someone in my past for the whole first semester. Number one, I’m waiting for marriage. I don’t want to get too much into this, but I strongly believe that sex should be reserved for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with so that’s what I want to do, and I don’t think that’s what a lot of guys at this age want to do. This is a major place where I think going to non-religious school is hard. I hear about hook ups all the time and that’s not what I’m looking for when I talk to a guys, I’m looking for a friendship that maybe one day when I’m ready could possibly turn into something more. The second reason being I’m afraid of commitment, which does not go with my morals but that’s just the second reason.

Honestly, being a Christian at a non-Christian school can be hard but if you think of it as a test (I don’t, some do) maybe it will help. When it comes down to it find people who share some of the same morals and you’ll be able to get along. When it comes to dating, the right person will be the right person and you will do the right things for the two of you as long as you are firm in what you believe. If you ever struggle find a chaplain on campus, my school even has one! Or you can go to the church and they might even have a little support group and pastors are always willing to talk to help anyone struggling with you faith. I hope maybe I helped someone with this post, if not I guess that’s okay too. God led me to write it either way.

XOXO,

Mary.

My Life in 20 Questions!

Okay, it’s been decided, every other week will be Tag Tuesdays. Some Tuesdays will be no posts and other ones will just be random posts or serious posts, or whatever, and Tag Tuesdays might even go down to once a month just because it’s hard finding ones I like. Anywho, onto the questions. Also first a question, is anywho a word? Sometimes spellcheck underlines it and other times it doesn’t so is it a word? Because I really like it.

1.  What is your favorite color? I hate this question, I don’t believe in favorite colors and I refuse to answer it.

2.  What is your favorite number? 5. I like odd numbers only please.

3.  What is your dream career? To be honest, this would be an awesome career to just blog and travel blog about it, but also help people. I really want to work for an NGO and teach English to women in Africa, as well as subjects like math and other basics so that they can teach the kids so that they don’t become dependent upon foreigners teaching everyone.

4.  Where do you see yourself living when you’re on your own?  I hope either on the west coast like Seattle, or somewhere in California, or in London or Dublin, two of my favorite cities in the world.

5.  Where is your favorite place to travel? I love London and Dublin, but when I travel I like to go to new places and new cities. I really want to go to Charleston, South Carolina.

6.  What do you do in your free time? Free time? Thats a thing? No when I have that I like to crochet, read, watch Netflix, okay so I guess free time is a regular day for me… Awkward.

7.  Favorite clothing stores? Forever 21, when they have good clothes, I feel like they’re hit or miss a lot of the time. I also love American Eagle, but I’m also poor so that doesn’t happen a lot. Finally Target, I love it so much also because they have more than just clothes.

8.  Dream car? No car…? I have a love/hate relationship with driving, I don’t really like it but I don’t know what I would do if I couldn’t drive. So I’d rather just live in a city where I can get everywhere by walking or public transportation like subways and stuff. 

9.  What TV shows can’t you live without? Grey’s Anatomy, Criminal Minds, and whatever my addiction of the week is.

10.  Three people you need in your life. Well I can’t just pick three so I’m going to do three groups. My parents, they are always there for me, like I am always amazed at how supportive they are of me no matter what, and I know I can go to them with any problem but also things I’m proud of and they’ll be proud too.  My best friends, Katie, Lindsay, and Hannah, I honestly don’t know what I would do without these three ladies, no matter how bad of a day I’m having and I need to rant they’re there to listen and make me laugh. I couldn’t ask for a better support system. Finally, but not least important, I need God. I mean He’s always listening, so I guess He probably hears the things in my head that no one should hear, but He does protect me and answers my prayers, whether I like the answers or not.

11.  I can’t sleep without my old, ratty, “chew” bunny, or an extra pillow, I always need something to hold in my arms while I fall asleep.

12.  If you were given a million dollars all for yourself what would you do with it?  I know it says all for myself but the first thing I would do is pay off my parents house, pay for my college, and then my sisters, and then with whatevers left I would travel for a summer. Hopefully there’s no taxes on this million dollars.

13.  I have a celebrity crush on… Zac Efron, first and foremost who doesn’t? Then if you consider YouTubers celebrities, which some people do and some people don’t, Joe Sugg, but I feel like I know him so it’s almost like a real crush, which is creepy. Very very creepy.

14.  What is your favorite treat to eat? Chocolate. I love it so much. I could marry it.

15.  My favorite animals are… Giraffes. They are so majestic and beautiful and I love them so much.

16.  What is your favorite season? Fall because I don’t like the heat and all the bees finally start to go away.

17.  My favorite childhood shows were… Lizzie McGuire, That So Raven, Even Stevens, I guess you get the gist, Disney Channel shows basically.

18.  Why did you start blogging? Well when I entered college my plan was to be a communications major with a concentration in journalism and I thought it would be a good start, but now I don’t want to do that I still love blogging though and I don’t plan on ever stopping.

19.  What do you hold close to your heart? My grandmom, she died two years ago this month and I will always keep her close to my heart. She was an amazing woman when she was alive, and that will always stay with me and when I make big decisions I try to think of advice she would give me because she was always so wise.

20.  What is one music artist that you are in love with? Well I’m going to assume this questions means with their music and that would be Taylor Swift, and that used to be a super cliche white girl thing and I don’t think it is anymore because now the super cliche white girl thing to do is make fun of her, but that’s not cool.

Anyway so this is actually basically my life but that was the point of the tag, so I guess it worked. 

XOXO

Mary

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January 6: Dustin Hoffman in 1973

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January 7: Who was Harald Bluetooth, the 10th-century figure for whom the Bluetooth wireless transferring technology is named?

 

Don’t forget to comment with your guesses!

I’m in love!

Okay, so I’ve come the conclusion in the past few weeks that I’m in love. No, not with some unfortunate boy, but with the idea of love, and I think we all are.  As a girl I was taught from a very young age that I should want to fall in love, have the prince rescue me from a terrible/bad/horrible situation, so we begin to romanticize these types of things.  I remember being in preschool and thinking I had found the love of my life because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do.  As girls we grow up in a world to be dependent upon males.

I remember having a crushes upon crushes in elementary school, however, I was never the lucky girl to have a boyfriend.  In middle school it seemed to me that everyone was falling in love, everyday someone was in a new relationship and in love, because we thought that’s how love worked. Again I was never the girl with a boyfriend, but after seeing my middle school diary over this past summer I had thought I had fallen in love several times.

The time came for me to venture onto high school, and for whatever reason I decided that I was not cut out for love, and I was not going to be the girl to fall in love, or at least anytime soon.  Yet, January of that year a boy I had a crush on asked me to be his girlfriend, and I quickly accepted.  Now this being my first relationship I did not know how to react, we went on very few dates, to football games and the annual fair.  Sadly a little after a year, it ended.  In this whole timespan of over a year, we did not say the three magic words that everyone loves to say in their relationships, we sent hearts over texts, and yes I liked him a lot, but I did not love him.  After the sadness had ended, I moved on to another boy, but he was gross and I didn’t like him so we broke up. He was my first and only kiss.  I regret it deeply. It was obvious to me that I was not in love, even though he thought he was falling in love with me.

By this point I was almost seventeen, which to me seemed very old to not be in love, even though most of my friends were single and they too were not in love, but I had always grown up with the idea that I was going to fall in love in high school. My parents had been high school sweethearts, and I had always watched high school love stories where they lived happily every after.  I thought that I would be like my mom, falling in love at 16 and marrying young. It was about halfway through my junior year when I realized that love that young was not what I wanted.  At the time I really like my best friend, we had been inseparable since the beginning of the year and everyone had already thought we were dating. However, he did not want to date because he was not ready for marriage, and basically the timing was never right.  We had a falling out the following year and we haven’t spoken since.

As I neared the age of 18 I began to think about what I wanted with my life. I was scheduled to go on trip to Europe with 39 other high school students from the area, which I did and that experience changed my life.  It was this little “vacation” that brought me to the realization that I was not going to have the same love story as my parents. My best friend was not going to come to his senses like what happens in the movies and fall in love with me. I also learned a lot about myself.  I always knew that it was hard for me to tolerate people for more than a few hours, let alone a life time. I learned that maybe love wasn’t for me.

At 17 this is a hard realization to come to. As I wrote previously, it is in a girl’s DNA that she is supposed to fall in love. I had been taught through countless movies, the love stories of my family, and society in general, that I was destined to fall in love, get married and have a family. However, I also realized that I was really lucky to be realizing this now rather than later in life. I figured more out about my self in nineteen days then the rest of my life put together. I wanted to travel and I wasn’t about to get settled down after college to stop that dream.  Sure, senior year came and I had two crushes, but I never pictured the one going very far, and the other one crashed down around me and now I realize that it would’ve never worked out anyway.  I don’t want to fall in love. I don’t want a love story, I want my own story.

As you may or may not know, I am 19 now and in college. I’ve been here for about three months now and I haven’t found anyone really, and I think it’s because I’m not looking.  If someone cute asked, sure I’d go out on a date or two, but I know it will be hard to find someone who wants the same things as I do.  Now, even though I’m not really looing that doesn’t mean I can watch a romantic comedy and not desire that kind of affection, because I do.  That doesn’t mean I don’t get jealous of seeing happy couple, because I do. I know I feel this way though because I was trained by society to feel this way. I know that for me to be myself and be happy it’s being single, or with friends. Maybe someday I’ll be lucky enough to find someone who wants the same things as me, but I don’t think that it’s going to happen. I’ve been taught to be in love with falling in love, and I no longer want that. I want my own dreams, and that’s what I’m doing now. I don’t think I realized this until I wrote it all down for all of you as well. Whatever happens now has to be God’s will because I don’t think I’m going to be chasing after anyone anytime soon.

So this was a very serious very long post, and I’m really thankful to those of you who made it this far. Thanks for reading. Love you all.

XOXO

Mary