Picking the Right College

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It is now the end of April and for seniors graduating high school the pressure is on to pick the right college. I’m sure by now a lot of you have made your decisions, I made mine mid-February, however, there was still a large group of my friends who still hadn’t decided when the end of March was rolling around, so if that’s you, don’t fret, I think they  are all succeeding.

  • Don’t pick a college just because everyone tells you to pick that one. Everyone has their own opinion of what you should do, when really it’s just your choice.
  • Don’t worry if you can’t picture yourself anywhere. I could not find a school that I pictured as my home, now that I have nearly completed I would 100% without a doubt call here home. Like no matter how hard it is to picture some place a home, I think it’s something that the people around you contribute to.
  • Find a place where people are kind and will try to help you make your decision. The school I’m at, I talked to people here about my other options, and they didn’t tell me to go here, they encouraged me to do what I thought was my best option. If people can’t be honest about where you’re going it might not be the best place for you.
  • Think about the geographical location, because it is pretty likely close to where you will end up post college. That’s the area where you going to start making professional connections and moving forward with life. This piece of advice was provided with the help of Eric.
  • While a significant other can help influence a decision,  you should know that if the relationship is supposed to last, it will last no matter what. I don’t know if you could say I know this from experience or not, but I chose my own place and I was very comfortable with my choice when things didn’t work out. I honestly believe that if things are meant to be they will be if you work for it, and it won’t matter if you’re a five minute walk or a five hour drive. Don’t go somewhere for somebody else, unless that’s the place you honestly and truly want to be.
  • It’s not the wedding dress feeling for everyone. When I say this I mean some people think college is like you try it on and you just know, like people feel about wedding dresses, I disagree completely. I don’t think I felt that at any college I visited and I love it here, this is where I want to be, I was mostly neutral about everything I saw, or I hated it. Don’t worry if you don’t feel that way.
  • Go with your gut, it’s probably right. If you had to flip a coin, and heads and tails each designated a school, which side are you hoping for? That’s the side you go with, no matter what shows. That’s what you want to do. You want to do what you want, don’t let other influences change your mind about what you want to do.

So good luck with this decision! It’s so exciting, try not to stress too much about it. If you don’t like where you go, you can always transfer, but you probably will like it. Make your decision with passion and with your views, not the direct influence of anyone else.

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College Tips: Getting Ahead and Being Prepared

Chances are if you are currently a senior in high school you probably know whether or not you plan on attending a place of higher education be that technical school, community college, or a traditional university. If this is you, I encourage you to continue on and read this, just a few things I wish someone would have told me my senior year of high school.

  1. Get ahead in your shopping. I know, such a typical girl thing to do, but right now, there are tons of clearances! Since everyone is back at school stores like Target have deals on all of their back to school things like hampers, comforters, decor, etc., so get that while it’s on sale so you aren’t breaking the bank when all the prices are high since supplies are in demand in the summer.
  2. Use your free SAT sends. I think it’s like three, even if you don’t know where you’re going use all three, send them to random schools, send them somewhere. Might as well use them because then you have to pay and that adds up, depending on how many schools you apply to.
  3. Bring stupid things with you to college, like coloring pages and other various crafts. You’ll always find someone who likes the same things as you, plus it’s alos nice to have something relaxing to do in your free time.
  4. Extra everything. When you get your supplies, grab two of mostly everything, or bulk. You’ll run out of deodorant, you’ll run out of detergent, you’ll run out of a lot of dry stock that doesn’t expire so stock up, especially if you don’t have a car with you on campus.
  5. Take lots of pictures so you have reminders of people from home.
  6. If Command Strips are on sale, buy them. Lots of them.
  7. Leggings are real pants, buy them on sale in the spring.
  8. If you want to write letters bring addresses and STAMPS (which I need to go buy).
  9. You’ll lose friends, or more like acquaintances. It’s part of life and you’ll just lose touch with someone, and then you’ll be fine.
  10. Have fun. Have fun senior year, have fun during the summer, have fun when you get to college.

Leave your helpful tips in the comments while people are getting ready to for applications and everything!

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Personal Identity

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There’s a big difference between keeping up with trends and trying to be like someone, and then again there’s a difference between trying to be like someone and trying to be them.  A lot of people like to keep up with trends, I kind of try sometimes, I mean I like what I like, and if it happens to be a trend of the moment even better. However, some people like to be like others in fashion. So if Hilary Duff is wearing purple sun glasses they’re going to wear purple sunglasses. That’s not a bad thing either, however I think it starts to cross boundaries when you start to want to be that person. Instead of wanting a fashion sense like their, you start talking like them too, picking up phrases and words that are really specific to them as a person, more than just because you hang out with them a lot. For example if I was obsessed with Miley Cyrus I might start singing Wrecking Ball all the time, because that’s what Miley Cyrus does (bad example, I know).

I think a personal identity is really important. If you base your personality, style, speech habits, basically most of the individualistic parts about you, you are no longer going to be an individual you are going to a second rate version of someone else. Why would you want that? Every person has a unique voice, thoughts, beliefs, looks, personality, etc. why would you want to jeopardize that to be like someone else? I see this a lot in what Lindsay calls the high school mentality (post on that coming soon) when being an individual is frowned upon. Take this from me, a person who has been an individual for as long as I can remember, it’s not a bad thing. Maybe I’m lucky and a lot of people thought I was being ironic when in actuality I was just being myself. However, after minor bullying that I handled well, not that anyone should ever be bullied for being themselves, I figured out that as long as I was happy with who I was that was okay with me and it didn’t matter what the “popular” boys thought about me, they were dicks anyway! Let me tell you something, if you try so hard to fit in with that popular crowd in high school that’s what you’re going to do your whole life, try to fit in. It’s not worth it, not even a little bit.

A personal identity, a unique personality owned by yourself is key in life. If you go through life basing you life off of someone else’s where is that going to get you? Lost and confused. When it comes to dating no one will ever be able to get to know who you actually are, they’ll meet someone else’s half assed personality and then figure out that your fake. You can only trick people for so long.

You can only go so long trying to copy someone, trying to be something you’re not, so why not just embrace who you really are from the start? Of course there are sometimes where you have to put on different hats or masks to blend in for the moment but that’s not entirely losing our whole being in someone else.

Don’t be something or someone you aren’t. I don’t know how much energy and time it takes to put up a face everyday, but I’m sure it’s too much.

XOXO,

Mary.

Everything Changes in a Year

I was taking a shower, ya know to be clean, and it brought me to thinking about how much has changed in the past year. This time last year was before I started slipping. This time last year I was really, really happy. To be honest, I couldn’t stop thinking how I couldn’t be happier, I was on top of the world and nothing was pushing me down. That only lasted for about another week and a half, but this time last year I was so happy. I was also preparing to graduate, having good times with my friends, and was only a little worried that I wasn’t going to pass math (but I did, don’t worry guys).

There are a lot of things that I would go back and change about this time last year. I wish I would’ve never been that happy. I think that’s part of the reason I’m down a lot, I was so happy and it all came crashing down around me in such a short time, but I still know what that happiness was and I haven’t felt like that since. Again, I’m not saying I’m unhappy or depressed or anything like that, I’m just fine, not good, not bad, just completely neutral. If I could go back in time I would’ve trusted my first instinct and I wouldn’t have done things out of spite or based my decisions around other people’s thoughts and feelings. However, I am grateful to now know how happy I am capable of being .

This time last year I was writing a speech for graduation. I was actually just writing a lot in general. I think the extreme euphoria and happiness I was feeling was inspiring and then the complete crash did the same. However, let’s focus on graduation. I’m pretty sure by this point I was counting down the days, maybe even counting down the days until I left for college. I was over the point of regretting my commitment and to the point of just being excited for college. I was thinking about orientation and admitted students day. Mostly I was just looking forward to standing on stage, reading off names, and being done forever.

There was also a little stress going on in my life this time last year, but the happiness really cancelled it out. I was struggling with AP Statistics which was the only class I needed to graduate. For a while I had a D and I really thought I was going to fail and not be able to graduate, but I got it up to C, which isn’t really good. However, I had senioritis since second semester of my junior year so I don’t think you can blame me. I got into college and passed. I was also stressed about graduation, I had a speech, to read names, help plan the picnic, and I liked to just stress.

When I look back at year ago, I never would have imagined my life the way it is today. To be honest, I thought I would be with a certain guy, I thought I would really be blossoming at college, and I thought I would really have my life together. However, if all that was true would I be here today? Maybe this would’ve been started but if I had a boyfriend, I would skype with him over writing here. When I examine everything I’m not sure which I would prefer my life to be like. I wish I was still that happy, but I’m glad I’m not with that guy. I’m glad I’m not worried about passing math now I might be worried about passing Arabic or all the stuff that went along with graduation.

What it all comes down to the end is, don’t stress about what’s a problem today because a year from now it might seem pretty insignificant, everything’s going to be different anyway so don’t sweat the little stuff.

XOXO,

Mary.

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For those of you who are unaware, today is the day of the Semicolon Project. Incase you don’t let me explain. Basically in honor of those who self-harm, are suicidal, suffer from depression or anxiety, and for all of those who are simply unhappy, a semicolon is drawn on the wrist of all those who suffer and support. This is because a semicolon is used when an author could have ended the sentence but decided not to, the project then compares it to people, everyone is the author of their lives and insteading of giving up when times are bad, they kept going. As I suffer anxiety I decided to particpate this year, I’m not sure why I never did, I don’t know if I just didn’t understand it. To me though, the semicolon on my wrist is a reminder that no matter how bad the panic attack gets it’ll go away, life will go on, and so will I.

You might’ve seen these on none or numerous people today. If you did, I hope you can support them. This is a lot like the Butterfly Project, however that focuses on self harm. You may even notice an increasing number of people with semicolon and butterfly tattoos on their wrists because they are survivors. I encourage everyone to be supportive of these people because some of them have been to hell and back I’m sure. However, they never stopped trying, they always aspired to get better because they saw that they didn’t like the direction their lives were going. Be proud of them, because it’s easy to fall back into an old routine.

Today was a particularly sucky day for my anxiety and I, especially during voting when all of the sudden tears were welling up in my eyes and I couldn’t leave the room, only making it worse. However, maybe the semicolon helped me feel a little more relaxed. I think anyone who suffers from any of the above things remember the semicolon. You’re story is not over, it’s just beginning. There is also some more information HERE  on the website incase you still had questions. I was going to try and include pictures but the internet here is so freaking slow.

Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

Mary.

Inspiration, Motivation, and Advice

Well I don’t want to do a Boston post yet because I’m still here so I might take more pictures plus I have like a video thing I’m doing so I want that to be up too before I do that. Anyway, I want to give you some inspiration, motivation, and advice. However, I must turn to my pal tumblr to help me along with this because I am not inspirational, motivational, or full of advice on my own, but as I am inspired it helps me to do so.

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Sometimes you have a plan. Sometimes your plan doesn’t work out. Sometimes that plan was never meant to work out.  I spend a lot of my time thinking about where I want to go with my life, and I think I spend a lot of time just waiting for it to fall out of the sky, or I’ll just fall into it. I’m not sure if that will ever happen, but sometimes when things don’t go quite my way, I look at the bigger picture and I see that maybe it was best this way. Sometimes what happens ends up being a lot better than what you would have expected. It’s okay if things don’t always go your way, it really is.

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Life might suck. You might have had the worst day of your whole life, the worst year of your whole life, but that’s not going to last forever. One day you’ll wake up happy, or one day something will go right. Storms come and go, in nature and in life. Don’t get caught up in it, because eventually it will pass. Eventually you’ll see a rainbow or a silver lining. The point is that no matter how bad it gets, it will get better.

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You can choose to be depressed and miserable about every little thing, or you can chose to be content. This doesn’t mean you’re choosing to be happy, you’re just choosing to be okay with what’s going on in the moment. Don’t get stuck on the bad, focus on what’s good in your life because that is what is important. I know it’s really easy to get stuck on what’s the bad because it’s more stressful however, you will be a lot happier if you focus on the good.

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What is more inspiring than Michael Scott jumping into a refrigerator box and yelling parkour? The correct answer is nothing. He came out unharmed. That takes guts my friends, guts. Don’t do it though, bad idea. Real bad idea.

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Whenever you feel like you can’t go on, remember this. Remember that there is so much more to life than a name you were called, a partner that dumped you, a lost job, and the days where nothing seems to go right. Never give up because you have so much to look forward to. It’s up to you to make the most out of your life, and I feel bad for people who don’t do so. There really are still so many more memories to be made and override all of the bad ones. Take the time to do these things and allow yourself to move on from the bad and be happy.

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Slow down. I know you want to move fast, you want to get out of high school/college/a dead end job, but take your time. We only have 80 years on this earth and zooming through them won’t allow you to enjoy it. Take the time to go sit in a coffee shop and sip that coffee for a long time. Take the time to write a few poems. Take the time to inhale the air around you and embrace every moment because you never know when it’s going to be your last. Slow down and enjoy the little things, the simple things.

Well I hope this inspired someone! There is a travel post, update, two reviews, and a final relationship post all coming your way soon, can’t wait to share with you guys! I must get off to get ready for bed now seeing that I have to leave at 7:45 in the morning tomorrow. Thanks for reading and I hope you are having a great weekend!

XOXO,

Mary.

Snow Days are Better in College

Well by looking at the title I guess you could assume that I had another snow day today, so thank you to those of you who said a little prayer or did a little dance for me yesterday. So today I’m going to do a list on why snow days are way better than they were in elementary/middle/high schools.

  1. The school calls you. The only thing I have to do is roll over when I hear my phone and hear the message, no watching the TV for fifteen minutes waiting for your school to show up and then not being able to go back to sleep.
  2. Your parents are going to ask you every five minutes if you are going to go sledding or go outside when you actually just want to lay around and do nothing all day.
  3. You don’t have an “extra” day to do chores. Before now my parents would always find me something to clean, however now I never have to clean, but I do anyway.
  4. No makeup days. In high school you had to make up every day you missed so two hour delays were the hope, now we hope for days off because we don’t have to make them up and it’s not going to change finals week or anything like that.
  5. You have extra time to get ahead. You have a whole day to do catch up or get ahead on work to make the rest of the week easier.
  6. However if you aren’t into the whole getting ahead thing you have a day to do nothing, which is also really nice and relaxing.

Well that’s all I have. Go ahead and comment what you like to do on snow days so I can get some more ideas for the next one, which could be as soon as Wednesday (a girl can only hope!). Thanks for reading pals.

XOXO

Mary

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February 2: Crust.

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February 3: What are the only colors Dutch abstract artist Piet Mondrian used in the spare geometric paintings created during his Neoplastic period?

How to Survive High School: Senior Year

Okay so today is special for two reasons: reason number one IT IS MY 100TH BLOG POST!!! This is actually super exciting for me and this is probably the longest I’ve ever stuck with something so thanks for sticking through it with me. Also reason number two that this is special today is the last day of the how to survive high school series, yay! I also have something planned already for next week so I can’t wait. So here’s to the future! Thanks for being there for me if you were there since post one or post 100, each one of you are important to me. So yeah let’s start on senior year!

Senior year for me actually really sucked, well at the least the school aspect it did. So here is some of my advice to survive the last year of your high school career.

College applications, now I only applied to places, however there were not many places I even liked let alone wanted to go to. To be honest though I don’t think I would want to apply to a bunch of places because choices stress me out. What it really comes down to though is  if you want to have a lot of choices, if you think you’re going to get in to all of your choices and so on and so forth.

Essentially this is how you will feel about most people in high school.
Essentially this is how you will feel about most people in high school.

Senior year is all about hating every single person you encounter. Okay just kidding but if you’re anything like me you will. By this point in time I was so done with everything and everyone and I just wanted to be done. I feel bad for you if you met me senior year because I probably didn’t even give you the time of day because I was so done. I hope you don’t feel this way because I wish I could have had awesome memories and spent more time with people but that’s life and it comes with regrets.

Embrace you inner weirdness because it is your last year and when it's over you're never going to see anyone again.
Embrace you inner weirdness because it is your last year and when it’s over you’re never going to see anyone again.

Seriously if you are going to be weird do it now, because you aren’t going to see the people who will make fun of you ever again, plus if you go to college you are probably going to want to make a good impression so you can’t really do it there. So yeah, senior year, go be weird and confident. Be yourself!

You are going to find out who your real friends are.
You are going to find out who your real friends are.

When it comes down to it you aren’t going to have the energy to force friendships anymore. You will lose friends senior year and it’s basically a fact of life. It sucks, I know, but it happens and it’s for the better, I promise.

Well that’s it my advice for senior year. If you guys have any questions about high school at all feel free to comment or email me, I literally have no life and answer every single one!

XOXO

Mary

How to Survive High School: Junior Year

I am not going to lie to you about junior year, that’s not what I’m here for, it is one of the most stressful years that you will have in high school.  It starts and ends with tests, decisions, and more tests.

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First of all your high school will most likely offer the SATs and CTs in the fall, you may not be ready to take them, but take them anyway. The more you take them the more and better chances you have of getting better scores, the better scores you get the easier it is to get into colleges.  This is super serious business guys, like I’m not kidding when I say take these tests seriously because they determine scholarships, acceptances, and basically anything that involves college. Trust me when I say, I wish I would’ve taken them again just to get 30 points higher so I would’ve been able to go to a better school.

Secondly, start researching colleges and universities you may want to attend that way you have an idea of what kind of scores you need and what exactly you have to do to get there.  You also need to find out what you like and don’t like in a school, you don’t want to end up somewhere you don’t like for four years, it’s not fun. Look at a lot of schools, various sizes, state versus private, community college versus four year, so on and so forth. Do a lot of research and visit as many places as you possibly can, you want to narrow down options as soon as you can so that the application process is easy and painless.

Next, if you want an easy senior year, this is the time to start thinking about it. You want to double up on at least one class if you want to cut out one of your core classes senior year. This is actually something I highly suggest you do because if you are anything like a normal teenager you are going to catch senioritis and if you don’t catch it junior year like me, it will be there by January of your senior year and you don’t want to be stuck taking a bunch of classes you need to graduate that have a lot of work that you won’t want to do.

Finally, if you don’t plan on going to college or university right away, whether you take a gap year or just never go, still take this year to look into options of what to do when you’re done.  You can look into anything from places to work to missionary trips to trade schools. All of those are fantastic things to do and college isn’t really for everyone, some people just fall into their place without a higher education and get places in life. Never think that because you don’t go to college you aren’t going to amount to anything because there are plenty of things that don’t require college degrees, look at other options if you don’t think college is for you.

XOXO

Mary

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January 20: King played a key role in the passing of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and was also awarded the Nobel Peace Prize that year.

January 21: Benjamin Franklin

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January 22: What insect-eating birds find their meals on the backs of rhinoceroses?

 

The Real Perks of Being a Wallflower

Okay so I know it’s Saturday and I’m supposed to be writing about adventures or a trip I’ve taken, well two problems with this situation, I literally did nothing this week and I don’t feel like writing about something in the past because that takes effort and searching for pictures and blah blah blah. Anywho (still not sure if this is a real word or not), I was at a loss for what to write about and my friend Lindsay who I talk about often, gave me the idea because it’s something we talk about often and that’s the real perks of being a wallflower.

Everyone knows the book as well as the movie, however there are many more benefits of being a wallflower than the author even began to point out.
Everyone knows the book as well as the movie, however there are many more benefits of being a wallflower than the author even began to point out.

I feel as though throughout most of my life I can pride myself on being a wallflower, even though I wasn’t “unknown”. It’s kind of hard to explain but I think people would either just forget I was around or didn’t care. I’m not sure, but trust me, if there was a Gossip Girl of my high school, I easily could’ve started it without tips from people (well at least to start), if you went to high school with me, you’re lucky I’m nice.  There are so many perks to this, like I don’t even know how to describe it to you.

If you’re a wallflower you can basically get away with anything, no one ever suspects you. Set someone’s hair on fire, get away with, just kidding, don’t do that! Setting people’s hair on fire is bad. Very bad. I do not condone setting hair on fire. Anyway, but you can, no one suspects the wallflowers.

Imagine this, you’re sitting in class in the middle and you have two friends on either side of you, you hear everything they say, you literally know every detail of their life. To me that’s the most interesting thing and annoying things ever. Like I’m a huge people watcher, I love to observe and  take note of what people do and what they are like, so to hear that it’s really interesting and entertaining. However on the other hand, sometimes it’s really annoying because no matter how nice it is to have that insight into someone’s life, I actually could care less about it.

Perfect quote for a wallflower. Just because we aren't reacting to what you're saying I notice everything.
Perfect quote for a wallflower. Just because we aren’t reacting to what you’re saying I notice everything.

This is also kind of an advice piece to anyone who is rather open in their talking as well. People hear everything you say and do as much as you think they don’t. If that makes sense. Wallflowers notice everything, and they aren’t always as nice as I am, that’s how rumors start, with truth straight from the source.

Anyway I know this post was pretty bad, I have lack of creativity tonight. Sorry pals.

I hope you have a fantastic day/night/everything.

XOXO

Mary

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January 17: Allied air attacks on Nazi train movements in France and Germany.

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January 18: What is a young frog called when it grows out of tadpole stage but has not yet reached adulthood?

Funny side story about frogs, one year in my grandparent’s pool cover there were a bunch of tadpoles so we took them to put in our fountain and we were never sure if any lived or not.