Amidst the Rebrand

I’ve been pretty absent this year and there’s a lot of excuses I can make for it, but at the end of the day there really isn’t a reason for it other than I just was unmotivated.

Recently, I met with the career center about rebranding and what my brand should be, all of that fun stuff that I will be dealing with in the next several months. With that came some disappointment, well not quite disappointment but some confusion. While I felt really good about myself afterwards, what it has basically come down to is that I have a few options:

  1. Completely start over (not going to happen)
  2. Private things that future employers might be turned off by (i.e. my opinion)
  3. Do nothing and maybe get somewhere by the luck of the draw

While I got some great advice for what my brand should be, we talked about making everything that doesn’t fit my new brand (post-college stuff and struggles) private. I just feel so icky about doing that for some reason. I have no idea why but making parts of my blog that has really been my identity for the past three years private feels so wrong.

I also feel odd about holding back my opinions. I have a lot of them, they are no longer weekly rants (lol at the old daily blogger) but they’re still in my head. She said that things (like my Trump piece) could turn a future employer off from hiring me. At the same time, do I want to work for a company that suppresses my opinions, or support Donald Trump? The answer is a very strong no.

However, the coolest part about the whole meeting was learning how to be a mommy blogger without the kids. She explained to me that post-college life is weird, friends will leave, get married, that I’ll go through jobs and cities, and it’s just a weird time and that’s what I should be writing it. I get to write about everything I love and I don’t really have to pick a particular niche.

The future of my blog excites me. I’ve spent a lot of the time that I haven’t been blogging researching it and what to do about certain things pertaining to my blog and the “industry” as well.

The weirdest thing to me about my relationship with Mary’s Average Adventures is how afraid I am of it. I love blogging (more than anything) and I really love this site and everything I’ve created around it, but I’m so afraid to see what will happen to it. I’m afraid to see it fall or change too much. I’m afraid of forgetting about it. And really I’m afraid that I will never be the right person to let it live up to it’s full potential. I’ve treated my blog like a child to me for ages, I brag about it, tell people all the cool things that it has done for me and yet, I also don’t take care of it like I should. Oh man, if this was a real child it definitely would have been taken away from me for neglect. Well, thank goodness it can’t breathe.

Anyway, I guess this is basically just another post on what I’m doing with the site. And believe me it’s getting there. Actually within the next few days it’s going to be the 12 days of Christmas again so you’ll be hearing a lot more from me!

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When you don’t know what to say…

It’s been almost two weeks since I’ve last blogged. I think that’s probably a record high for me. It’s upsetting and stressful that my life has been so chaotic and busy that I haven’t found the time to blog. A big part of that issues is that I feel like I’m running out of things to say sometimes. Well, I’m not running out of things to say, I’m running out of ideas is the better phrasing I suppose.

I just don’t have words anymore. And maybe it’s because after a long day I just don’t want to do anything else, maybe it’s because my free time is slowly being filled with assignments for things that aren’t classes, or maybe it’s because I’ve just run out of words.

I love to blog. Blogging is my passion, it’s one of the few things in life that I actually love doing. However, it’s been hard. I’ve been running a craft blog for class, so I have to do that too for a grade, plus extracurricular stuff as well. I feel like I’ve let it get away from me.

It has gotten to the point where it is almost humorous to me that I used to be a daily blogger. It’s even funnier when I think that I almost tried to do that again this year. I think being a daily blogger is something that really needs to be respected because it is hard, I wish I could do that again. I think it something that would have pushed me to keep writing everyday, but it’s also something that probably would have driven me a little bit mad.

So what do I have to say? I’m not sure. I don’t think I’m out of things to say, but I do think that I’m just currently on pause with things to say. I’ve written my thoughts out a million times on nearly every subject, so why am I becoming suddenly reserved when it comes to blogging? Why am I afraid of judgement? I’m not sure. I’m going to try and stop that. I’m going to try and be the best blogger possible. Hopefully that starts today.

Here’s to a new season of blogging.

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On the road again… Or should I say in the air?

Im back at the airport waiting for my flight to London to start boarding. I can’t get over how fortunat I am to have these amazing experiences.  This week alone I will be in three different countries, four different cities, and I get off school for a week. I’m so blessed to be graced with such amazing opportunities. 

I’m so happy to be traveling. Although, I will admit it’s a lot easier when my mom just plans everything for me. Today I leave Dublin, get to London, I’ll be there until Wednesday morning then I got to Madrid, then head off to Seville on Thursday to see Molly. It’ll be so nice to see one of my best friends from home. I’ve never been to Spain before so I’m super excited. 

It’s crazy to think that I’m traveling more this semester more than I have ever travelled in a span of three months, or at least it feels like a lot of travel. It has given me a lot of time to self-reflect and think about what I want to do in the future. I know that I want to live somewhere that’s realistically easy for me to see my family and close friends. Sometimes I just want that comfort. Like I’m not saying I want to end up in Lancaster or Frederick, but I want to be a short plane ride/train journey/car ride away, just in case I want to see my family. However, I still want to see the world and all it has to offer.

So now I’m off to see London, let me know of any must sees! 

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Unrealistic Expectations

After a year of college and crossing off core topics like language and science, as this happens I add more and more to the list of things I don’t want to do. Language, math, and science are all topics that have made that list so far. This leads me to think about what I should be doing and honestly I don’t know. I have this expectation that one day it’ll like come to me in a dream or something or I’ll be in the right place at the right time and I’ll just fall into it. That is a very unrealistic expectation.

I think I have a lot of these in life, I just expect the best out of everything. Hannah tells me I’m brave, I think I’m crazy. It should probably make me nervous to get from the bus station to Harvard Square by myself at five in the morning, but it doesn’t. It doesn’t scare me to wander cities alone, I just have this expectation that I will be fine. Probably not a good thought process.

I have this expectation for everything that it’s just going to work out the way it should, if I want something I’ll work for it, but if it doesn’t work out my reaction is that it wasn’t supposed to. I only end up really disappointed about half the time, which sounds like a lot, but I get over it pretty quickly. I only dwell on very few things.

I hate that this is what I’m basing my life plan off of. I am just taking everything as it is, seeing what I like and don’t like. For example I like writing, but I hate sitting in office building. My ultimate dream would be to become a travel writer for a magazine, or well, it would be really nice to just use this as a travel blog eventually, however, I have not fallen into blogging, there’s a good amount of you, but not enough to make this a career or anything. This is a hobby. Currently.

I know eventually I’ll figure it out, however I might need to do some searching instead of waiting. There are things that help lead me in the right direction, but right now I’ll just keep making the list of things I don’t want to do.

Before I sign off I just want to again ask anyone with anxiety to contact me at marysaverageadventures@gmail.com I’m trying to get some research done for a blog post I want to do. You will remain anonymous, unless requested otherwise.

XOXO,

Mary.

Holiday Present Guide

Well it’s that time of year again, the time to buy your loved ones and those closest to you presents for which ever holiday you celebrate. We are now reaching cram time for presents here folks and I’m going to try and help you shop for those closest to you. 

Let’s start with family:

  • Dad: For my dad we always seem to get stuck and then we end up buying him things that have his favorite sports teams on. This has gone as far as lawn gnomes; my father has an Eagle’s lawn gnome.
  • Mom: I get my mom the same thing every year for Christmas so it’s always a breeze. For those of you who do not do that you can always go for candles/slippers/anything handmade, moms love that cheesy stuff.
  • Older sister: Now I don’t have any of these so I’m just going to list things I would like: gift cards, money, clothes, makeup, candles, lotion, body sprays, ect., just be careful that they actually like the scent. 
  • Older brother: I don’t have any of these either, so my guess would be gift cards, money, video games, and sports paraphernalia.
  • Younger sister: I have two of these and I never know what to get them so usually I just take them out for a meal, movie, or shopping (with a very small budget of course) and that way we also have some time to catch up since we don’t get to hang out often.
  • Younger brother: I don’t have any of these either so my guess would be video games, or other toys. Nerf guns are always fun (everyone likes them!)
  • Extended family: Something generic is always easy, unless they ask for something specific.  Gift cards and home necessities may not be very personal but they are always appreciated!

Now onto friends and other people you should probably buy presents for

  • Best friends: This year I am making my best friends something that has to deal with a few of our many inside jokes, these are always fun little gifts that hold memories and laughs.  My childhood best friend will be receiving a t-shirt from my college, so she has a little piece of me when she is so far away.
  • Regular friends: Forever 21 has cute little necklaces, scarves, beanies, makeup, and nail polishes all under $5! This is awesome for anyone on a budget and they are still really appreciated, so that’s what I did for a lot of my friends at school.
  • Guy friends: Now unfortunately this year I do not have any of these to buy for, but if I did I would probably go with a t-shirt, or a fun toy of sorts.  If neither of those works candy and other food always works wonders.
  • Roommates: Now this person you live with all the time so you probably know a lot about them. For example my roommate loves animal crackers, so I got her a MASSIVE tub of them, probably a good two pounds. Now depending on how close you and your roommate are will probably factor in on how much you spend on them if anything, even the smallest thing can go a long way though.
  • Acquaintances: This year, I didn’t feel the need to do this as I did in highschool because I have a pretty good idea as to who is buying me Christmas presents.  But, if you’re afraid that someone is going to buy you a present and you failed to buy them something in return, just keep some chocolate bars and candy canes with you and give that to them! The smallest gesture can go a long way in many cases. 
  • Boyfriend/ Significant Other: Again, I do not have one of these either so I will try my best on what to get them since I never was really good at this. If you have used the l-word yet (yes that would be love) there are hundred of cute little lovey dovey ideas on Pinterest like 52 reasons why I love you on a deck of cards. However, if you are afraid of that word (like myself) it never hurts to buy clothes for him/her, especially clothes you want to see them in.  If you go to different colleges a t-shirt of your school is nice to show your support for one another. 

Feel free to leave a comment if you are really stuck on anyone at all! This is really my favorite time of the year because I love buying stuff for people! 

And here are just a few more present tips:

  • Make sure you talk with everyone about a budget, you don’t want to spend $20 on someone who’s going to spend 5. 
  • Wrap them nicely, it shows you took time and effort for their present
  • Gift receipts are really important, especially when you buy clothes for people. 
  • Finally, if it’s someone important to you and you are using a label, cross out from and write love, it’s the little things that matter.

I hope this little guide helped you with some presents. It sure distracted me from studying.  One final down, three to go.  Hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a great holiday season!