Trying to Date as 20-Something

Dating sucks and I hate it. I hate the start of relationships where you have to get to know someone and trying to figure out the way they think, how to understand them, and just all those little things. I can’t think of anything about dating that I like. I can’t even count the number of times in a week where I want to call my mom and ask her to just arrange my marriage.

I was recently ghosted. Or maybe that’s still an occurring thing. I don’t really know how long of a process that typically is, but all I know is that I’m pretty pissed about it. Like really, you’re in your twenties, I’m willing to have a conversation, so let’s talk about it. I find myself to be a reasonable person, and ghosting makes me totally unreasonable. So to the guy that’s ghosting/ghosted me, if you’re reading this, I’m a catch and because of your unwillingness to have a conversation with me, you’re missing out boy. Also mom and dad- I don’t want to talk about it. I would be lying if I said I’ve never ghosted anyone, I mean I tried. I was unsuccessful because I feel like shit leaving someone in the dark like that.

I know that I’m a relatively easy person to date (at least in my opinion). I don’t require fancy dates (my favorite places are IHOP and Target) or even that much attention, a text a day suffices for me. However, I never seem to be enough for the boys that  pay attention to me, or I require too much. Honestly, the last guy who was actually my boyfriend couldn’t do enough for me so I broke up with him. That sounds really shitty, but he complained if I asked to go on a walk around the park, not even if we could get a coffee.

So I don’t understand why I find dating so complicated. I sometimes feel as if I have convoluted ideas behind dating. I can be quoted of saying “Did I miss the day in school where everyone learned to talk to people they’re attracted to?” Other than my lack of flirtation skills, I can’t get a guy to notice me. Well, I can, just not the ones that I want to, and I don’t know why that is.

I feel like I’m starting to get a little side-tracked (naturally) in this post. Really, the thing is, there is not one good thing about dating in your twenties. Tinder sucks and it’s how to meet some really shitty people. I would be curious to know if anyone has actually had good, continued success on the app, because I would say I had brief and okay success but now I will never use it again.

I’m not one to blame things on social media because I love it more than most other things. However, it does make dating harder. It makes reading into someone’s personal life a lot easier and actually talking to someone a lot more difficult. Like, if I just start seeing someone I am not about to tweet some T-Swift lyrics because that’s unfortunately the kind of thing that freaks guys out whether or not it has anything to do with them. They might not even follow me on social media yet and I won’t tweet it just in case they decide to creep. Fortunately, I’m not the type to get mad if a guy likes another girl’s picture, or retweets something, but there are people that get into actual fights over such things. While, I may find that little bit out there, it’s a real problem. Social media might be hurting our dating lives.

On the other hand, social media has done this awesome thing that it usually does, which is bring people together. I am curious to know if that works for people. I know a girl who started dating someone on Instagram, like they had mutual friends (I think) and they hit it off through comments. To me, that’s kinda crazy and I don’t think that happens a lot, but maybe I’m wrong. My goal is that an attractive man will see how hilarious I am on Twitter and slide into my DMs, I doubt it will happen but a girl can dream.

At the end of the day, my thoughts behind dating is that it sucks and I want an arranged marriage. No, not really, but it does suck. They’re are too many ways for it to go downhill. For someone like me, that is a tough thing to grasp sometimes. Post-graduation I would really like to have a steady man in my life that likes me and treats me well. Preferably, he has aspirations of things and goals he will obtain. Obviously, I’ll keep you posted on any male suiters (only after they know about the blog and they stick around past the “dating” phase of things).

What do you think about dating as a twenty-something?

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An Interview with Rebecca Jackson

I have started a new series where I interview my friends as they are very important to me, so here is the first official one, but you could also count the one I did with Hiba over the summer as well.

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Today I’m sitting down with one of my best friends Rebecca Jackson.  Becca has an identical twin sister, they are best friends and both attend college with me. They are sincerely some of the best people I know.

Mary: What do you want my readers to know about you?

Becca: I’m single. I’m single and looking. 

Mary: If you had to describe yourself in three words what words would you choose?

Becca: Needs instant gratification. It’s a flaw, I admit. However, those are three accurate words to describe me, but every hero or heroine has their flaw, and mine is wanting what I want right when I want it. I am learning that good things take time, however, I still find myself wanting instant gratification. 

Mary: What are your goals in life?

Becca: I have a couple goals in life. There are two mains ones. They are in no particular order because I would like to achieve them both. I would like to have a career where I do not dread going to work everyday. I mean I work at Safeway now and I do not dread it by any means but I definitely do not want to work there my entire life. I would like to get married someday. Marriage is something that I want to experience. I want to find that one person I want to spend the rest of my life with. The thought of coming home to my best friend and knowing that no matter where I am or where I go that when I’m in his arms, I am home.

Mary: What are your hobbies?

Becca: Oh there are so many. Like taking selfies, shopping, I read when I have , however I have not had time recent. I’ve read every Nicolas Spark book except his latest one, hopefully I can read it this summer so I can put that on my resume. I like to spend time with my friends because my friends make me feel like the happiest person in the world. I would never replace any of my friends for anyone, not even Taylor Swift. Everyone knows how much I love her. My friends are so perfect, even more perfect than Taylor Swift.

Mary: Who are these perfect friends?

Becca: My best friend of course is my twin sister Chloe, she can always tell when I’m upset even when I don’t want to come right out and say it. She always make me feel better.

My friend Alyssa we have nearly identical senses of humor, we can always make each other laugh even on our worst days.

My friends Grace and Victoria, they’re twins as well, they will listen to me go on about my problem, including the same problems over and over again, and will continue to give me advice even if they know I won’t listen to it.

Another one of my friends is Eric, I can’t sit down for a meal with him without crying from laughter. He’s definitely one of the funniest people I know without a doubt and also he’s incredibly smart.

There’s my friend Rachel, who was my freshman year roommate and one of my first friends at college. She has made my college experience fun thus far. I have another friend,

Zoe. She is a lot of fun to do the radio show with when she let’s me play my music.

I have a friend Ruth from high school, I’ve been with friends with her since 6th grade. She literally knows everything about my life. We laugh together, we cry together, we talk about everything together. She has been with me through thick and thin.

My friend Shanayah is hysterical and always down to have a good time with me.

Lastly, I have this friend Mary. I’m convinced that Mary will marry me one day because Mary and I have a massive amount of things in common and Mary will always, always, always make me feel more confident about my insecurities and she will never judge me for my poor decisions.

Mary: Just to throw it in, I probably won’t marry Becca, I’m straight. What are some fun facts about you?

Becca: I’m a vegetarian. I have consumed any meat product, aside from this one time, if you count seafood, I mistook salmon for scrambled eggs. I have three arch enemies on campus. All three of these women have attacked me. Otherwise I’m a very easy person to get along with. 

Mary: Is there anything else you want me to write?

Chloe: I’ve never dyed my hair. I wear contacts. I will be hosting the International on April 17 at 8 pm in the Hodson Auditorium, in Rosenstock, I know that doesn’t make any sense. 

Thank you for reading this everyone. Becca is great you can find her tumblr here and her instagram here. If you would like to be interviewed, let me know!

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Is it no big deal?

I do this thing when I really care about something or I really want something to happen I pretend like it’s not a big deal. The biggest thing I would say I do this to is marriage. Like I’m always like “I don’t want to get married. I don’t want to think about my wedding. Like let me just elope and get it over with.” It’s half true. I think weddings are hassles and I don’t know if I would necessarily enjoy it but it’s something that I would honestly like to experience in my life.

I doubt I’m the only one who pretends things aren’t a big deal that really mean a lot to them. I am well aware that I do this because I’m afraid these things aren’t going to happen for me. Like I honestly believe that I will not get married so I act like it’s something that I don’t want to do. I really don’t think I will ever be comfortable enough in a relationship to take those steps towards marriage so I just pretend like it’s something I don’t want.

I think a lot of people do this, we pretend things aren’t a big deal because it’s like that self-convincing thing. If you can convince everyone around you that something’s true- you’re eventually going to believe it too. So that’s why I do it. If I can tell myself that I look good everyday, I’m going to build my self-esteem, which I do and it makes me feel a lot better, however while this is a good thing to do, I do it with all the wrong things. “I don’t want to get married,” “I don’t really want a boyfriend,” “I don’t really know if I want to go into journalism after college,” these are all things I say to the people around me so I believe them.

Is is okay though? When I say it’s no big deal do I really mean that? Sometimes when you try to convince everyone around you that it’s not a big deal you forget what you really care about. I think I’ve started to rebuild what I care about.

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Why it’s Good to Mind Your Business

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I see a lot of articles on why it’s good to have kids young or wait, get married young or wait, move in with a significant other or wait, go to college or not, but really it’s no one’s life but your own. Everyone has an opinion. I understand that, it’s just that your opinion on someone else and their life doesn’t really matter and it shouldn’t affect them either way.

Today I got on Facebook and I saw an article “Why it’s good to get married young” and I was mad at first. It goes on about how it’s God’s gift to be married young, but for someone like me that is nothing that I’ve ever wanted. I don’t want someone judging me for not wanting to get married young, but I also should stop judging people who are at a point in their life where they feel stable enough to get married young.

I think the internet is great and all but I think there are some opinions that are actually personal decisions. I think there is too much pressure on people to make very personal decisions via something they read. I know I’ve read things which referred to me as a terrible Christian room just because I didn’t want to be a stay at home mom, or let alone a mom. This really offended me as a Christian woman and it was just someone’s opinion that was trying to influence my future when really God does call people to the single life and that’s my choice of whether or not to be a mother.

Sure it’s cool to get married at 20 but it’s also just as cool to get married at 65. If you want to have loads of babies go for it, but if you want to have none or one go for it! I’m tired of all these people trying to tell everyone what to do, let them live their lives and mind your own freaking business! I think we are all too far concerned with how other people live their lives and how they should live more like us or the lives we want to have and really NO ONE KNOW WHAT THEY’RE DOING WE ARE ALL JUST FIGURING IT OUT AS WE GO! You can’t do your own life wrong. I mean unless you’re a rapist or something I wouldn’t recommend that lifestyle but honestly everyone has to make their own choices so stop trying to control them. You do you and I’ll do me.

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The Five Year Plan.

I don’t have a five year plan. I don’t even have a one year plan. I like the idea of the five year plan though, it’s a great concept. In five years I should hypothetically have my shit together, I highly doubt that will happen but that’s where I should be in five years. Five years from now I’ll be TWENTY FIVE! That’s really old, at least to me. My mom was 24 when she had me so that puts a lot into perspective on my side. I don’t want to have a child within the next five years. I don’t want to be married within the next five years. According to Mary Time I shouldn’t be getting married for at least another seven years, Mary Time will be explained another time.

I’m not a free spirited person, I’m very much a constricted person.  I wish I was a free spirited person because then the lack of a five year plan wouldn’t worry me so much. To me, there’s just so much in the world to experience and try that I’m at a loss for what to do next. For example, I want to study abroad next fall but I also am afraid of missing out here. I can’t let that stop me though, but at the same time I don’t know where to go. It’s a very complex up in my brain. So that stops my one year plan and holds it up a bit. Which makes me interested in a summer program or something along those lines. There’s a lot of things I have to think about.

I’m also very single. Like there’s not a man on my radar besides an attractive person I see on my way to class. If I was in a serious relationship I’m sure a goal of mine would be to get married within the next five years, but that’s not me or the position I’m currently in. For me to get married I would like to be dating the man for at least five years prior to marriage so I will not be getting married for at least another six years.

Currently I would like to consider myself in the selfish years. The next five years are for me, and if a man wants to enter my life he is more than welcome to do so, but for now these are the years for myself. I don’t have to report to anyone but myself. After I graduate college in two and a half years I have a lot of time to work on myself. I suppose I could currently be working on it but right now I still have responsibilities.

The point of a five year plan is to set up goals and have ambitions and an idea of what you’re going to do for the next five years. Shout out to the people who have five year plans, but an even bigger shout out to the people who can’t even manage a one year plan like myself.

There’s a greatness in a five year plan but there is also something really special about the endless opportunities of the lack of one. I’m rather excited that I can have endless opportunities and  experiences without the idea  of goals and expectations that I created for myself looming over my head.

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I Want an Ed

The rumors are always flying, and the question is: Is Sweeran real? No, that’s not what this blog post is about, my speculation of Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran, it’s to express my jealousy of their relationship, what kind of relationship that is, is not my place to judge. 

If you know anything about Taylor Swift or Ed Sheeran, you probably know that they are best friends and that they are often speculated to have a relationship. I just want a friend like Ed. Okay maybe I want what they’re speculated to have, maybe I want a boyfriend. Kind of. This comes back to what I not know what I want with anything in my life ever. Maybe I just want a boy to go to iHop with and laugh really loud and obnoxiously with, who I kind of have a crush on and he kind of has a crush on me but we don’t really do anything about it, instead we just kind of hang out and eat and laugh. Is that weird?

I’m 19 and in a few month I’ll be 20, at this point in my mom’s life she would be getting married in a little over a year (I believe she got married at 21, but it might’ve been 22 sorry mom) anyway, she was really close to the age I am at now, that’s the point I’m trying to make. Anywho, I am NOT ready for that serious of a relationship. I like the idea of holding hands and going on walks, not the idea of picking out engagement rings and floral arrangements. Not like there’s anything wrong with that, it’s just not what I want. 

What it comes down to is I want a guy in my life that has the possibility to maybe have the potential to maybe one day have a serious relationship with, in the future. The very distant future. I wish we just kind of knew who we were supposed to be with that way they would have to hang out with me, I would just be like well you have to wait until I’m done soaring my wild oats then we can get married and stuff. Not soaring my wild oats like talking to other people, like seeing places and things and meeting people and traveling and just seeing everything.  

Does anyone else feel like this? Or is this one of those “justs Mary things”?

XOXO,

Mary.

The Future Tag

I’m feeling lazy today so I decided to do a tag and since I’ve been talking about the future all the time I found a tag about the future.

1.  Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

I see myself sitting on my computer, blogging and hopefully having some sort of successful career. I would also like to be somewhere really cool with someone I enjoy the company of, maybe a man, maybe just a friend who knows.

2.   Do you want to get married?

I’m not sure. I have yet to meet the right man to marry so I don’t think right now I want to get married but maybe one day I’ll tolerate someone long enough to love and get married to. I would have to really love them though, and it would take me a very long time to want to get married.

3. Do you want to have children?

I think so. I think it would be fun. Even if I don’t get married I think I will adopt and make a little kid have a much better life. Probably from China where orphanages are filled with girls since they are unwanted. I will only have kids if I’m financially stable though.

4. Do you want to move? If yes, where?

For sure, I don’t want to live in Lancaster my whole life. I’m not sure where, I want to be at least a little close to my family but at the same time I love cities like Seattle and Boston so I want to see what else is out there before I decide. I think it really depends on what  I’m doing with my life too.

5.  How does your dream house look like?

I’ve always loved tower houses. I’m not talking about a castle or anything like that, just like a house with a little tower in one of the bedrooms. I also would like it to have a wrap around porch with a swing and steps up to the house. I like yellow ones with green or pink trim. It would also have a library in it and the tower would have a tin roof so I could sit on the little window seat inside and be inspired on rainy days.

6.  What is your dream job?

This? I know that’s not practical but doing this or something like this is really my dream job. Something that I can do and travel with, really just something to pay the bills and support a travelling lifestyle would be fine with me.

7.  What are five things you want to do before you die?

Oh my word there’s so much. I want to see every continent, go to every state, change someone’s life for the better, adopt a child, make sure everyone who has inspired me over the years is well aware that they have done so.

8.  Are you scared of the future?

Very much so. I really like plans and seeing that I don’t have one really scares me. I like to have everything planned and I don’t for the future, heck I don’t really know what my major is and that’s scary. I wish it was five years in the future, I was financially stable and doing something I loved.

9.  What’s your biggest dream you would like to achieve in life?

I would really like to impact the life of someone in a positive way. Whether this is financially or mentally, I just want someone to think of me and be like “she changed my life and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without her.” I just really want to matter to someone.

10.  What would be the ideal age for you to die?

I think 100. I really like odd numbers and 100 is an odd amount of numbers and I like that. Also I would like to live for a century.

 

If you have any more questions for me pop them in the comments and I will obviously answer. Thanks for reading guys!

XOXO,

Mary

Relationship-Phobic…?

Is that even a thing? Well if you can assume what that means I’m afraid of relationships. I think this is a real thing too and it stems from a lot of things, like being hurt, seeing statistics and even just commitment in general.

I’ve been hurt, like I’m pretty sure I’ve told you guys my prom story and how that was a really bad experience. That’s basically how it’s been for most guys I’ve dated/liked/talked to and it gets discouraging. Anytime I even think about entering a relationship with someone I get very nervous, I have trust issues, and I’m constantly afraid that they don’t actually like me. So there, reason one I’m afraid of relationships.

Okay so my parents are happily married, but have you seen the statistics? Over half of all marriages end in divorce, that’s scary. You enter a relationship and you are either going to get married or break up, that’s scary. I’m not ready for marriage, does that mean I shouldn’t date? But then I think about my age and I’m like well if I want to date someone for at least three years before I get married, if I met that person now, we could do the normal thing and get married right after college. Also very scary. Then if I get married we could get divorced (but I wouldn’t get married until I’m a hundred percent sure) and it’s more likely that we would get a divorce than stay together. This all makes perfect sense as to why I’m afraid of relationships.

I’m afraid of commitment. My school is small, like 2,000 people (if that) small and the ratio of girls to guys is 60:40 then add in gay guys, and my options are becoming very limited. So then, let’s think about okay so maybe I did decide that I liked someone here and maybe they liked me too, but thennn we break up, super awkward! You see them everywhere, it’s unavoidable. The school is too small to avoid people, trust me I’ve tried. Also I’m not about that “let’s be together all the time” stuff and college gives you that opportunity.  I’m pretty sure if I wanted a relationship I’d have to ask my friends to set me up with people from their schools because long distance would probably be a lot better for me. Closeness and all that commitment stuff is way too stressful for me, I can’t do all of that. SCARY.

Basically I’m afraid of relationships and all of the stuff goes towards it, so unless some poor guy likes that/feels the same way I’m going to be alone forever, and I can’t say that I mind. Please share how you get over this fear in the comments! Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

Mary.

Relationships: Aspect 2- Control

Control in relationships is something that I see in a lot of relationships. Someone, male or female, presents his or herself as the dominant one in the relationships everywhere.

From personal experience, I was with a controlling boyfriend, and as soon as I realized it I ended it. I didn’t like it. He constantly wanted to know where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing. At age 16 that’s what I have parents for, not a boyfriend. I was supposed to be going on dates and having fun with my friends, not constantly checking my phone to answer every text he sent immediately. If I didn’t respond to every message even a “yeah” or an “okay” he would send the message three times and then ask me if I was mad or why I wasn’t answering. It was too much for me so I broke up with him.

I guess that might not have been as controlling as some relationships are, definitely not actually, however it does show how small my tolerance levels are. I’m going to look up warning signs of a controlling relationship (look at me doing research) since I don’t know too much about this subject, other than it’s sucky and unhealthy.  This also includes abuse. Abuse is not okay, sexual or physical. If anyone is ever touching you in a manner that is not a appropriate leave the relationship and seek help if need be. I shall leave number for help as well as website resources.

  1.  Rough Treatment. This could be as simple as grabbing your wrist a little too tight during an argument and could be as terrible as punching and kicking. This also includes things like throwing objects like glasses, books, etc. This is usually a recurring problem and will happen more than once. If you see this as a problem it’s best to leave sooner than later because it just get’s harder to get out of.
  2. Quick Attachment and Express. Love at first sight essentially. If someone is saying things like “I love you” and talking about marriage at the very start of a relationship it might escalate quickly and this is a definite warning sign of a controlling relationship. However, this may be hard to gauge now because I feel like people say “I love you” so quickly nowadays. The site (included at the bottom) also mentions that they might shower you with expensive gifts. It takes time to develop a serious relationship and a future, if someone is rushing things it might not be a very good relationship and there could be alternative motives in addition to a controlling relationship.
  3. Frightening Temper. The changes will be quick and out of nowhere. You may do one little thing “wrong” and your partner loses it.  At first this may only been seen with their reaction to things their family and friends, but that’s a warning sign to you. The way they treat other people is how they’re going to eventually treat you. It’s important to notice this before their actions start going against you.
  4. Destroys Self-Confidence. A controlling partner will try to eliminate any self-confidence that you hold. A person who lacks self-confidence is easier to manipulate, the easier you are to manipulate, the easier you are to control. If your partner tells you how ugly, fat, horrible, etc you look, they are diminishing your self-confidence. A person who really likes you will want you to know how beautiful you are, and they should build your self-confidence rather than destroy you.
  5. Separates you from your support group. If a partner tries to distance you from your friends and your family it’s probably not a healthy relationship. You should be able to hang out with those who care about you and you care about without a problem. It’s not normal for a partner to tell you about how much they dislike all of your friends as well as your family. They shouldn’t try to cut calls with your family short, or ask you to cancel plans with your friends to hang out with them instead. They may also always want to know where you are and they may not want you to be the places where you are. That’s not normal. You should be able to go where you want with who you want. Unless you’re doing something you morally shouldn’t but other than that you should be able to do what you want to do.
  6. Rapid mood changes. This means that your partner will go from mean to sweet in the blink of an eye. They will yell and scream and turn around and try and fix it by apologizing like crazy, trying to spoil you, but soon enough they will go right back to being awful. The awful parts will do things like rip at your self-esteem and they will slowly destroy you, even if you believe they are fixing it during their sweet phase, they aren’t, the damage is done.
  7. Blame game.  There is no way that every fight and argument is your fault, but if you are in a controlling relationship you might believe that you are to blame. Everytime. If someone is telling you that every fight is because of you, you are being controlled. There is no way that every single time that you argue it’s your fault. This even applies to things that they do wrong, if they cheat, if they break anything, if they get in an accident, if they get pulled over, they will blame all of that on you. It doesn’t even make sense, if they blame you for something that could never be your fault, leave. That’s a huge sign. Run.
  8. Breakup Scare. If you threaten to break up with them they will freak out. They will try to do everything to fix it. The idea of losing the “object” yes object, they look at you like a thing, of their control scares them. They will go as far as they need to try and win you back. At this point it’s best to leave and cut off all contact. This is not safe.

These are just a few of the signs that you are in a controlling relationship. If you find any of these in a relationship you are in, here is a website that helps you to get out of it and get advice http://www.thehotline.org/. This is for domestic abuse but sadly a controlling relationship is considered abuse, it may not always be physical but mental can be just as damaging. If you feel as if you need someone to talk to your age, my email is marysaverageadventures@gmail.com and I can try to give some advice, but it is more than likely that I will try and refer you to real help because I am not an expert whatsoever. This is also a really helpful website http://www.mentalhealthce.com/courses/contentCR/secCR16.html that I used for this post. Check it out as it gives slightly more detail than I did. If you think you are in an abusive or controlling relationship please try and get out of it. Get in touch with the hotline and there are even shelters set up for those who are in relationships like this. There are always better options, don’t settle for less than you deserve and NO ONE deserves to be controlled or abused.

Finally, I would just like to dedicate this post to my cousin. I don’t know what your story is anymore, but your family and I guess I’ll always still love you. I don’t know what’s going on in your life but I’m worried about you. I hope somehow you see this. I’m not sure how you will, but God will find a way.

Thanks for reading guys!

XOXO,

Mary.

99 Questions That No One Asks (With a Q&A)

As it is a Tuesday I found a tag that I’m interested in doing so I’m going to do that. I also did not get very many questions (just two) so I will also be answering those at the end.
99 Questions That No One Asks
  1. Do you sleep with the closet open or closed? Always open, at school and at home, my closet is really never closed. Sorry mom.
  2. Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel? Oh yeah, especially if they smell good. I’ll take anything for free.
  3. Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out? Tucked out. I can’t do tucked in whatsoever.
  4. Have you ever stolen a street sign before? No, that’s a felony.
  5. Do you like to use post-it notes? They’re okay, I mean I try and use them because I know they’re useful but I always forget.
  6. Do you cut out coupons but then never use them? If I cut them I’m going to use them, it’s just the chances of me cutting them are slim to none.
  7. Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees? Attacked by a bear, I hate bees so much.
  8. Do you have freckles? Some on my face, arms, and shoulders, not enough for anyone to notice without being very close or someone else pointing them out.
  9. Do you always smile for pictures?  Hardly, my friends and I don’t really take serious pictures so I only smile for pictures with my family or selfies. But sometimes for selfies I forget to smile and that’s why I don’t have very many.
  10. What is your biggest pet peeve? I have so many, in case you haven’t noticed, but my biggest would have to be people walking or driving slow in front of me and me being in a place where I am unable to pass them. This actually drives me insane.
  11. Do you ever count your steps when you walk? Yes, especially in cities or on walks around my development.
  12. Have you ever peed in the woods? Yes, I don’t want to talk about it.
  13. What about pooped in the woods? Umm no, that’s pretty gross, worse than peeing.
  14. Do you ever dance even if there’s no music playing?  Of course, you should know this if you watch my videos. Also I just dance around sometimes to make my friends feel uncomfortable at the store.
  15. Do you chew your pens and pencils? I do sometimes if I’m thinking really hard or I’m stressed out.
  16. How many people have you slept with this week? None, obviously.
  17. What size is your bed? At home it’s a full at school it’s a twin long.
  18. What is your song of the week? Counting Stars by One Republic, I fell in love with it over break.
  19. Is it okay for guys to wear pink? Boys can wear whatever they want to wear just like girls can wear whatever they want to wear, so stop determining whether or not it’s “okay” for people to do/wear/be something different LET’S JUST LET PEOPLE BE WHO THERE ARE QUESTIONS LIKE THESE MAKE ME SO ANGRY! IT IS NOT MY PLACE TO DETERMINE IF A BOY CAN WEAR PINK OR NOT IT IS HIS OWN PERSONAL OPINION, GOT IT?! Well now I’m all fired up.
  20. Do you still watch cartoons? No, they scare me. Well unless it’s like Beauty and the Beast.
  21. What’s your least favorite movie? I’m not sure, there are some really weird movies I’ve seen on Netflix that would probably classify as my least favorite.
  22. Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some? I’m not going to tell you because then you would find it.
  23. What do you drink with dinner? Water.
  24. What do you dip a chicken nugget in? Buffalo sauce.
  25. What is your favorite food? Fries or chocolate.
  26. What movies could you watch over and over and still love? The Harry Potter series and Abduction.
  27. Last person you kissed/kissed you? My parents on the cheek.
  28. Were you ever a boy/girl scout? Yes, I was a girl scout because I am a girl. 
  29. Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine? No I respect myself too much, and I don’t have the body for it. Also if I were going to pose in a magazine I would want to dress as something cool, like a dragon.
  30. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper? I wrote my friends Hannah and Lindsay letters before Thanksgiving.
  31. Can you change the oil on a car? I highly doubt it.
  32. Ever gotten a speeding ticket? No. *knocks on wood*
  33. Ever ran out of gas? No. *knocks on wood again*
  34. Favorite kind of sandwich? Peanut butter and fluff.
  35. Best thing to eat for breakfast? Turkey sausage and an onion bagel, oh my mouth is watering at the very thought.
  36. What is your usual bedtime? Whenever I feel like sleeping so usually around 1 am.
  37. Are you lazy? Of course.
  38. When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween? What didn’t I dress up as is the better question.
  39. What is your Chinese astrological sign? A dog. I had to look this up, I didn’t get it. What does that mean?
  40. How many languages can you speak? I speak English and then very little Spanish and Arabic.
  41. Do you have any magazine subscriptions? Yes, to Seventeen.
  42. Which are better legos or lincoln logs? Legos, obviously.
  43. Are you stubborn? Yes, very. Don’t argue with me. Ever.
  44. Who is better…Leno or Letterman? I don’t even know who they are…
  45. Ever watch soap operas? No. Unless you consider Grey’s Anatomy or Degrassi soap operas because some people do.
  46. Are you afraid of heights? Sometimes, it really depends.
  47. Do you sing in the car? Of course, loudly and proudly.
  48. Do you sing in the shower? At home yes, at school no.
  49. Do you dance in the car? Yes, it’s probably dangerous.
  50. Ever used a gun? Do nerf guns count?
  51. Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer? Sunday with my extended family, not fun at all.
  52. Do you think musicals are cheesy? Yes, but I love them anyway.
  53. Is Christmas stressful?  Kind of, but I love it.
  54. Ever eat a pierogi? No I don’t think so.
  55. Favorite type of fruit pie? I don’t like fruit pies.
  56. Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? Waitress, astronaut, spy, plus many many more.
  57. Do you believe in ghosts?  Not really.
  58. Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?  All the time and I hate it.
  59. Take a vitamin daily? No. That’s bad isn’t it?
  60. Wear slippers? Occasionally.
  61. Wear a bathrobe? Yeah at school all the time and at home when I am taking my time to get ready.
  62. What do you wear to bed? Just regular pajamas.
  63. First concert? Hilary Duff.
  64. Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart? Target <3 I love it. Target=life.
  65. Nike or Adidas? Neither? I don’t like sneakers.
  66. Cheetos Or Fritos? Cheetos, yum!
  67. Peanuts or Sunflower seeds? Both, but neither are my first choice in snacks.
  68. Ever hear of the group Tres Bien? No, never.
  69. Ever take dance lessons? Yes, but my dance teacher told me I wasn’t good so I quit. Even though it should’ve been his job to fix it, whatever.
  70. Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing? If I have a future spouse I would like to imagine them making a lot of money so I don’t have to do anything. At least I’m honest.
  71. Can you curl your tongue? Yes.
  72. Ever won a spelling bee? I am rubbish at spelling.
  73. Have you ever cried because you were so happy?  Yes, many a times.
  74. Own any record albums? No.
  75. Own a record player? No.
  76. Regularly burn incense? No, it gives me a MAJOR headache.
  77. Ever been in love? Nope, love is overrated.
  78. Who would you like to see in concert? One Direction, Marcus Butler (I hope someone gets this), Hilary Duff (again), Taylor Swift (again), a High School Musical reunion tour.
  79. What was the last concert you saw? Taylor Swift
  80. Hot tea or cold tea? GROSS, neither.
  81. Tea or coffee? Coffee. Lots of coffee.
  82. Sugar or snickerdoodles? Both please.
  83. Can you swim well? No, I have to hold my nose.
  84. Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? Nope.
  85. Are you patient? HAHA not at all.
  86. DJ or band, at a wedding? I have no idea.
  87. Ever won a contest? Kind of. Like raffles and I got some awards in high school.
  88. Ever have plastic surgery?  Nooooooo. 
  89. Which are better black or green olives?  No olives please.
  90. Can you knit or crochet? I am a crocheting machine.
  91. Best room for a fireplace? I like outdoor fireplaces.
  92. Do you want to get married?  Probably not.
  93. If married, how long? Not married… So yeah… Awkward.
  94. Who was your HS crush? I’m supposed to pick one? Well you see I just put my blog on my Facebook for the first time and I’m very nervous admitting to this but let me just put one out here, Justin, he was my first boyfriend and he’s a cutie pie. Doubt he read this so there. I gave you one of them.
  95. Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? Occasionally, usually I argue to get my way rather than throw a fit.
  96. Do you have kids? Nope.
  97. Do you want kids? Kinda but not really, like I want to have kids to do funny things and be obnoxious but I wouldn’t want to be with them when they’re annoying or bratty.
  98. Whats your favorite color? None. Don’t even ask me about this please.
  99. Do you miss anyone right now? Not really though.

Questions asked by readers!

  1. Asked by Not Lindsay on yesterday’s blog. “What’s it like having such a cool friend such as Lindsay?” It’s a struggle to be so lame in comparison. 
  2. Asked by Alex on Twitter. “What is your schedule going to be when you get back to school?” Well I actually had to look this up and I guess I’ll just give you guys my class schedule and when I plan on studying and stuff… So Mondays start at 11:30 with Arabic until 12:45 and then I have 2:00 I have Model UN until 3:15, so I’ll probably just get lunch to go in between the two classes and this is the same for Wednesdays, which will probably make these my major study/work days because Tuesdays and Thursdays are extremely busy. They start at 8:30 with Biology of Food and Nutrition Lecture until 9:45, then Environmental Science from 11:30 to 12:35 and then I’ll probably get lunch to go because I have sociology from 2-3:15 and then I might want a nap because it’s just an all over the place kind of schedule. Finally on Fridays I have Arabic from 11:30 to 12:15 but then I have the lab portion of my bio class from 2 to 4:50 which is going to be awful! And somewhere between this madness I will find time to go home to work, do homework, study, and maybe socialize occasionally. 

Anyway here’s some facts about me because of Tag Tuesday and next week might be a tag, it might be a serious post, it might not be anything special at all. If you have any more questions for or about me comment on any post because I typically answer every comment so yeah. I set up a bloglovin profile yesterday so I believe you can follow me on there too now.

XOXO
Mary
Answer
January 13: Binturong or Asian bearcat.
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January 14:  What emergency use was made of coconut water by British and Japanese medics during World War II?
Don’t forget to guess in the comments!