Dealing with Sadness.

Four years ago today, my grandmother died. I don’t talk about this here. This is my corner of the internet and I have never talked about one of the worst days of my life, why? Because I don’t always want to be negative, and I don’t know how to talk about it. My grandmom got sick when I was in 8th grade for the first time, then it came back and it never went away and she died my junior  year of high school.

Now that’s about how much I can talk about that. Because here’s the thing I don’t like to deal with sadness, especially  my own. This is the worst thing you can do. Face it. I can’t face this problem online, but I have faced it. You have friends that you can talk to, parents, even counselors at most colleges and high schools.

Sadness isn’t something you can avoid. It’s something you have to talk about. It’s one of those things that if you bottle it up you aren’t going to get anywhere or feel any better. You need to talk to someone.

So deal with your sadness. Don’t hold it in. If you hold it in, it will hurt you in the long run. This is just something I think about every year around this time. The longer you hold it in the more it’s going to hurt. So talk about it. It’s something I struggle with but I force myself to talk so I stop dwelling. There are some things you might never move on from and the sadness will always be there, but that doesn’t mean you can ignore it.

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Things Only Readers Feel

So Thursdays are typically rant days, but today has actually been a pretty good day so I don’t want to rant and ruin my enlightened mood. Instead, I decided to share with you things that only readers feel.

However, before I begin that, I would just like to throw this blog post out there again, especially since I am in serious need of a partner, I really want to do this thing, but I can’t do it on my own. I think it’ll be a great opportunity, for anyone, however more so for college students who need resume boosters. So here is the link to the blog post  https://marysaverageadventures.wordpress.com/2014/02/25/im-so-excited-blogger-convention-idea-please-help-me/ and you can email me if you’re interested in helping or have any ideas. I also need a name so if anyone has any ideas they are more than welcome.

Okay so onto the good stuff. I’m assuming most of you reading this are probably avid readers, typically I am, however being at college with a million other things to do it gets hard to fit in time for fun readings. Hopefully this summer I’ll squeeze in enough to make up for it. Basically there are certain things that only readers feel, well at least in my opinion.

Example A: Most people don’t have the problem of falling in love with someone who isn’t real with only a vague idea of what they look like. I cannot express how many books I have read where I just want a character to be real so I can see them and be with them. As a reader, notably ones like myself who can literally feel like they are inside of the book, which leads me to my next point.

Example B: Readers are invested in every character, in both good and bad ways. This is a terrible emotion because you get invested in people who aren’t real.  It’s almost as if every action directly affect you even though it’s not even real. It’s truly awful.

Example C: Readers want to live and go places that aren’t even real. I am still distraught over the fact that I can never go to Hogwarts and fall in love with Teddy, how disappointing. I will never be able to visit Narnia or Genovia, and that’s sad. Readers have the opportunity to explore places through words, but a lot of the time we will never be able to physically see and explore.

Example D: The one good thing that readers get to experience that a lot of people don’t is a different sort of compassion. You feel bad for people who aren’t real, you cry for those who die, who you only know from words on a page. Reader absorb the feelings of every character and it’s a really interesting experience if you ask me.

Okay so that’s about all I have for today. Again if you wouldn’t mind sharing the link above, or giving your input on it, I would be so grateful. Thanks for reading!

XOXO,

Mary.