self confidence

Beauty.

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Beauty always seems to be a discussion, skinny-shaming, fat-shaming, whether or not a famous person has gained/lost too much weight, whether or not someone is even just pretty. My question is why does it matter?

There are days where I feel beautiful, and even the days where I feel fat and disgusting I tell myself I am because I wish I would have heard someone growing up saying they were pretty. Also if you say something enough you’ll start to believe it.

I don’t know why we have to comment on whether or not we think other people are ugly or pretty or whether we think they’re too fat or curvy or too thin or would look better if they did “x” or if they didn’t do “y”, it’s honestly no ones business but their own. Why do you think so many people struggle with body and self confidence issues? It’s not all internal, the internal factors come from outside factors.

It makes me sad to see everyone around me pick at the things they hate about themselves rather than embrace every great thing about them. I know I’m guilty of this as well but I hate that. I hate that we are assimilated into this culture where it is the normal thing not to like yourself. I hope that when I have kids they never push away their fat on their stomachs. I hope they don’t try and hide their flabby chin, I hope they embrace everything that’s great about them rather than only seeing everything that’s wrong with them.

Also, I don’t understand why there is so much negativity towards people when they try to embrace their imperfections and see themselves for who they really are. Sure, there are the immediate circles who are so supportive and are really happy for you, but then there are those people who are so judgemental who seem like they don’t really want happiness for others, they can only be happy if others are suffering and as soon as someone is confident in themselves they start to lose control of the situation. These can be people you know once you start to love yourself, or even strangers.

I see this with people talking about Meghan Trainor. I don’t know much about her, but apparently her song trying to give curvy girls a little more confidence was too upsetting to the girls that every song has catered to previously. Her audience is just different, and the line where she says “skinny bitches” she makes the remark that they are just as perfect as everyone else. Again, other than this one song, I don’t know much about her other than that song makes me happy and feel a little bit better about myself and I shouldn’t have to feel bad about that.

So stop judging every person around you, let them be them. You don’t need to be the person that makes them question their beauty. Let people feel beautiful. Encourage them, don’t discourage them. People are hard enough on themselves, they don’t need everyone else making them feel worse. Also try to say one nice thing about yourself everyday, it will help your self confidence and help you to feel better and see yourself as the beautiful person you really are.

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I’m Quirky!

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I would never tell anyone that I’m average, I would rather use words like weird, quirky, different, independent, or unique, because that’s what I am. I think I surprise a lot of people as they get to know me, mostly because I appear normal, I know how to be social, even if I chose not to be.

I like my cereal dry, but still eaten with a spoon. I don’t like most dairy products, I can only eat a kids sized ice cream before it’s too creamy for me. I have a list of things that make me want to vomit in a ranked order, vomit of course being number one. I wake up early in the morning when I can’t decide what time I want to be awake. I can’t stand stepping on cracks in the street, but I love stepping on tree branches and leaves. I don’t like wet foods really and I my favorite drink is water. I’m always tired but I don’t like to sleep.

I like being different though, I like surprising people. I also like that I’m not socially awkward and these little quirks make me funny and not a freak. Well I am socially awkward, but I’m not socially inept. I like that people find that interesting and not super weird. Now I think my friends might see this and think it’s weird that I like being abnormal but it’s what makes me who I am and I like that.

I don’t care what people think about me and maybe that’s a bad thing, or maybe that’s why my entire life is online. If someone doesn’t want to like me for sharing my opinions or my thoughts or my ideas, then why should I care about them? Why do I want them to like me?

I mean, I’m sure most of you are a lot more normal than myself, however, everyone has abnormalities. Embrace them and don’t hide. Be your quirky self.

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The Fat Shaming Continues

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I’m now more sick. I feel so gross yet I’m starting this on my break so I still came to work. I keep reading about the news in Missouri and I never thought I would see anything like that happen in my lifetime, so it’s really upsetting. The world can be such a terrible place. I hate reading the news because it’s so depressing, great thing that’s what the plan is for the rest of my life. Two journalists were arrested without reason and when the career path you have in mind is journalism, that just makes it sound like a blast. Anyway, not the point of today’s post.

Recently, on Facebook I’ve been seeing more blog posts about how the Fatkini trend on Instagram is wrong. I’ve been seeing quotes like “We shouldn’t accept an obese society” or “We’re promoting an unhealthy society” or “It’s not attractive.” Well first of all these all make me mad.

We aren’t accepting an obese society, obviously with statements like these. We should accept people for who they are and if it’s because they’re bigger that should be okay, we should be accepting people for who they are not for how much they weigh.

We aren’t promoting an unhealthy society, just because someone is overweight it doesn’t mean that they are unhealthy. Plus, every restaurant is promoting healthy eating while always featuring a salad, and chain restaurants usually have a section of food under X amount of calories. We aren’t promoting an unhealthy society it happens to people. People eat when their sad, people have thyroid problems where they can’t lose weight easily if at all. We are making people feel bad for something they have little control over.

I’m sorry but telling someone their aren’t attractive at all, let alone because of their weight is terrible and you should feel terrible about yourself if you do that. I have no tolerance for bullies and telling someone their fat and ugly is never okay and I hate seeing articles with similar terminology spread around the internet. It’s one thing to want people to be healthy because it’s good for them but it’s not okay to bully them so they feel bad about themselves.

When it comes down to it I honestly don’t know why people are so offended by the way someone looks, like get over it’s not you and it’s not your body. They aren’t affecting you in any way whatsoever, so get over yourself, stop making people feel bad for who they are, and mind your own freaking business, let people be happy with themselves. Honestly if we all let each other alone our self confidence would sky rocket. Stop putting other people down because of the way it looks, what the hell does that have to do with you or the way you look? Get out of everyone’s business and let people be themselves. If that’s who they want to be, let them be. You do you and I’ll do me.

XOXO,

Mary.

Being Healthy

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I’m trying to be healthy. This is hard. I like fries, but I haven’t eaten them in three weeks. I’m trying to eat less fatty foods, less sugary foods and it’s hard. It’s really hard. Before I came back last week I went food shopping with my family, who is extremely helpful. My dad and I looked at the ingredients on various products trying to find the healthiest options. The most unhealthy thing I purchased was fat free chocolate pudding, which I’m proud to say I have only eaten one of and I ate it over the course of two days in the week five days I’ve been back. I even stopped getting desserts in the dining hall because I don’t even want to know how many calories are in that stuff. As well as stopped drinking soda and other high sugar juices.

However, I’m starting to feel the difference. I feel less icky. All winter I’ve been hiding in my leggings afraid that my jeans might reveal the weight I had gained, well I put them on for the first time in about four months today and they fit just about perfectly, maybe a little snug. These little changes have me a little excited. I’m hoping by the week I go to the beach I’ll feel comfortable in my bikini and the crop top I accidentally bought.

The main reason I’m doing this is so I can feel more confident about myself. I love that I have a figure, but I wouldn’t mind if it got a little smaller. I think that I would just feel more comfortable in my skin if I started eating better and taking better care of myself. There are obviously things I have to do, like learn to like salad. I’m going to try it again at lunch tomorrow (ick). I also need to start exercising but I keep putting it off. A big part of my problem is that I despise sweating. Like half the reason I don’t like the heat is because I sweat. So I think Saturday I’m going to take a morning jog to the Starbucks downtown and use my free drink coupon and get an iced coffee. Maybe I’ll bring a book or my laptop to blog or something. Who knows maybe I’ll even chill out in the cute little park they have here.

I’ve talked a few times about being comfortable in your skin and I think I need to take my own advice. It doesn’t matter if you’re a size 0 or a size 20 as long as you are healthy and happy it’s all that matters. So I’m going to take a step in the right direction, right now I’m anywhere from a size 6-10 (wouldn’t it be nice if companies used the same standards?) and my goal is to be a 4-6 but I’ll probably stick right around the 6 region. I just want to be happier with myself and how I feel. I’m tired of feeling disgusted every time I look in the mirror. I’m tired of crying any time I think about stepping on a scale. So here’s to hoping for a healthier me.

Thanks for reading guys, and I ask for any tips you have for being healthy because I can really use them!

XOXO,

Mary.

Also tomorrows post will most likely be really late, like 2-3 am due to the fact I’m obligated to go to a school dance. More details on that tomorrow.