An Ordinary Life?

I think one of my biggest fears is living a bland and ordinary life. I know that may seem weird because my blog is my “average” adventures but that doesn’t mean I want nor do I plan on living an average life. Firstly it’s important that you know how I define an average life which is, graduating college, getting a job, getting married, having kids, and so on and so forth.

After college I think a lot of people get caught up in what I like to refer to as the “real world”. While this is good and dandy for people who would like to participate I would rather not do that and I want to experience my world. I’m not going to lie, it would be good for me to participate in life more, and I think I’m getting there. This doesn’t mean that I think I should spend my whole life behind a cubicle socializing with other cubiclites. I don’t know what I want to do, but sitting at a desk is not for me.

I think there’s this image of us, the image of what we are supposed to do with our lives. We don’t have to do that. The idea of an ordinary life is comfortable, I mean who doesn’t want to be comfortable? But just because you’re comfortable it doesn’t mean that’s what will make you happy. To me being happy long term is much better than being comfortable long term.  An ordinary life, or an average life to me is just boring. I obviously crave adventure. I don’t know why anyone would want to settle for ordinary, but for some people I guess that’s the goal.

I believe that everyone has the opportunity to be something great. As people we can be whatever we want, we have options and choices so we should take them. We can also create choices for ourselves. There is nothing that we are obligated to do. If you have the money to run to Europe tomorrow, why not do it? If that’s what you really want to do go for it. There’s nothing stopping you other than yourself.

If you continuously prevent yourself from moving forward or not doing something because you don’t think the timing is right you’re never going to get to the place that you want to be at. What’s the point of even having dreams if you are never going to put forth the effort to accomplish them?

Let’s not settle for ordinary unless that’s actually the goal, okay? Also, there is nothing wrong with wanting ordinary, it’s just not what you have to do because that’s the expectation.

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3 thoughts on “An Ordinary Life?

  1. gettingthroughanxiety October 10, 2014 / 2:32 pm

    Mary,

    I agree with you. When I was younger I remember thinking how I couldn’t understand how so many people wanted to do so much with their lives and never did. I mean, I in no way think that people that do not do what they set out to do are failures, but I think that a lot of people simply give up trying which is horribly sad. I understand that sometimes things come up (like my anxiety or other issues people have), but giving up on reaching your goals is NOT the answer.

  2. Zipporah October 13, 2014 / 10:47 pm

    I agree. I am not into having an ordinary life. I have so much I want to do and if I never get to do what everyone expects of me “get married, have kids, blah blah” then I am okay with it. I will only do what I want when I want. You have your whole life to live so do what you want. Get the job you want so its not a job and then go all the places you’ve always dreamed.

    • Mary October 13, 2014 / 10:54 pm

      Right! I think so many people get so caught up in what they’re supposed to do they forget what they want to do.

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