Something that drives me up the wall is beauty standards. If you take what beauty standards are and look at me, I doubt I meet any of the criteria for what is typically considered beautiful, but I do think that I am beautiful. I honestly, don’t care if that’s conceited or whatever, but I’m at a place where what I see in the mirror doesn’t bother me and I’m happy with myself (for the most part, no one’s perfect).
Why is it assumed that glasses make someone less attractive? Like in the movies they always take off the “nerdy” girl’s glasses, why? Why is there this idea that this beautiful girl is hiding under glasses? Why can’t she be beautiful or considered beautiful with the glasses? I love my glasses. I think men in glasses are really attractive. I think girls look professional, beautiful, and can rock glasses, so why are contacts constantly a question? For me, my glasses are part of who I am and I really like them on me, and I don’t think that should really bother anyone else. I get asked more than I ever would’ve thought if I would ever wear contacts, I tried it but with my astigmatism and lack of depth perception they just don’t work. I’m much more comfortable in my glasses so I’m just going to keep it that way.
I’m not talking about the perfect smooth curly hair here. Seriously, when was the last time you saw a movie with a girl with frizzy curly, out of control hair, who wasn’t being made fun of? It drives me crazy. This is such a tough subject for me because my hair is a huge source of anxiety for me and the frizziness makes me so uncomfortable sometimes. I went from having essentially pin straight hair, that wouldn’t even hold a curl, to this curly frizzy mess that no one in my family understands so it took me a long time to figure it out. I think a lot of this problem came from the media. I never saw anyone with hair like mine on TV that wasn’t being made fun of, so that’s what it made me feel like, like I would be made fun of.
Take “The Princess Diaries” for example, one of my favorite book series and movie, however, the hair really bothered me. Mia started out with this hair that was out of control, and actually a lot like mine, but she wasn’t considered beautiful until she got completely changed everything, but the hair was probably one of the biggest changes. Although I love those books and cherish them because they were a big part of my late middle school/ early high school years but I wish that Meg Cabot would’ve kept the crazy curls, let Princess Mia rock those unruly locks.
I feel like the biggest thing I’ve touched on beauty wise on my blog is fat/chub/curves. This is something that I feel like a lot of people can relate to. Now listen up here. If you eat, you can get chub if you’re like me and don’t exercise. It happens. If you don’t like it, work to get rid of it, but if you don’t mind it embrace it. Like it’s part of life. I understand that it would be nice if I had a flat stomach and good legs, and a perky butt, but I don’t and that’s okay. I’ll throw on my bikini and go to the beach anyway. Like the average size in America is what like 12? That’s not the size I see on tv and in movies.
There are a lot of beauty standards that can make other people just feel bad. Embrace your flaws or lack there of. Beauty standards are ridiculous, make your own standards.